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No thanks. I know all my local mental health resources and I take full advantage of them, but counseling is out of the question for me. The suicide hot lines are for putting you in the hospital on a 72 hour hold only!
Start with the 72 hour hold, proceed from there. In your shoes, that is where I would start. No joke.
I've been on CD-R many years and have seen this happen a number of times. Responders go on and on and on, often with comments inappropriate or irrelevant to the situation, long after the original poster has exited his/her own thread. OTOH, I've also seen original posters putting themselves out there with a personal and difficult situation and then combatting nearly every sincere post trying to be helpful. So one wonders how much to keep posting after the OP has quit. It becomes a dialog between posters without the OP on site.
It is not unlikely that the OP was more than half afraid to come back after having unburdened her (him?) self. This is a natural thing. I've done it on occasion myself. Post something personally revealing when stressed, and then avoid the forum for awhile for fear of negative repercussions. Sometimes you reach out for help and get a right slapping for your trouble.
Such as people accusing one of being a liar, faker, etc, or garnering sniping snarky remarks. As has, in fact, happened in this thread.
Paranoid? Certainly not. Suspicious? A little. Duped? Trying not to be (again). Guess you don't bother following links to OP's other posts? Never heard of the OP before this thread but looks like a pattern to me. When my "Spidey senses" go off, I'm generally right. Not all the time but in the vast majority of it.
Some one who is 61 can easily be very "old" and two steps from death (even many much younger can be).
Open kimono here ...
One set of grandparents were like pillars of the community ... they were the ones whom I adored and in many ways still do. The other set ... not so much. This second set were quite a bit younger than the first set. The first set were Lost Generation, born in the late 1800s. They had gotten all the wildness out of their systems by the time they hit their late 20s. I never personally experienced that side of them.
The second set were born, respectively, prior to and after WW1. GI Generation. They were both complete hell raisers. Got married way too young (he at the biological age of 25, emotional age, far less, her, at 18 ... recent deep web work reveals it might have been his second marriage and I may have a half uncle out there somewhere assuming he's still alive!). They had my dad right away (maybe less than 9 months after the wedding). So here you had kids raising a kid ... while still living with their parents ... sounds familiar vs present times, no? Anywho, they were pretty danged disfunctional and ill equipped for marriage / child rearing. My Grampa 4Fed out and did not fight in WW2. Grandma never really grew up. So not the typical "heroic" GI Gen. Long story short, lots of very bad lifestyle choices. Grandma actually left the Earth before Grandpa ... at age 54! Apparently a stroke ... but was really pilled up and maybe drank ... who knows. Mind you, we're talking the early 1970s here, not way, way back prior to good medical and mental health care ... not the best for sure, but far from the worst. That left Grandpa alone as an early 60something. He lasted two years then poof ... stage 4 cancer plus pulmonary edema. All this happened when I was really young and barely understood what was happening.
I put it all out of my mind for years. I was going to be really different. I was going to be king yup. CEO of something important. None of this disfunctional stuff.
OK, now here I am, approaching my grandma's age of death. I did better than they did in the mainstream economy. No substantial substance abuse problems or "diseases of excess." That's all good. But I look at my relationship history and how I landed into married life. History does not repeat but it can rhyme. Lots to ponder.
...It is not unlikely that the OP was more than half afraid to come back after having unburdened her (him?) self. This is a natural thing. I've done it on occasion myself. Post something personally revealing when stressed, and then avoid the forum for awhile for fear of negative repercussions. Sometimes you reach out for help and get a right slapping for your trouble.
Such as people accusing one of being a liar, faker, etc, or garnering sniping snarky remarks. As has, in fact, happened in this thread.
All you have to do is check out the OP's posting history to see that sympathy and advice does no good. In a couple of weeks the OP will start another thread much like this one. And then a couple of weeks after that, another thread.
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