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I had a conversation with some friends my age about how long they'd like to live, ideally, assuming decent health. So...assuming decent health, what is your longevity wish?
I want to outlive my mother (who is 92) but once she is gone, I'm ready to go. (I'm almost 70). She doesn't need the pain of outliving any of her children.
I didn't vote only because I don't know what I want.
Part of me thinks "now" would be OK. Life is pretty boring. No money. Can't do much. No close family relationships other than nephew in VT and nieces in FL. No significant other (and yes, I would like very much to have a good man in my life). It gets mighty lonely sometimes. And not having somebody to talk to about important stuff is tough. Made lots of mistakes. I'm a smart woman but I'll never say I never make mistakes or that I'm always right. Ha!! That would be a lie.
If things were to change, found my soul mate, both of us in good health, have some money by pooling resources, mutual likes and wishes then I would like to live till I'm 100 (him, too).
Despite what I may sound like at times on this forum, I do have a strong hopeful feeling. Like I don't want to leave because it's not over yet. Too much left to do.
Depends on "health" - my MIL is 92 and her doctor defines her as being in relatively good health. On the other hand, she has rheumatoid arthritis in her hands, sores that won't heal on her feet, is very hard of hearing, can't walk very far, doesn't sleep well. I don't want to live to get to that state. Of course, in my family, we don't.
I had a conversation with some friends my age about how long they'd like to live, ideally, assuming decent health. So...assuming decent health, what is your longevity wish?
?? There's no easy answer to this question.
My grandmother died at 93, after many years in which she was mentally clear as a bell but physically impaired by Parkinson's. I wouldn't wish that misery on anyone..
Other relatives didn't suffer physically but mentally checked out of life. Not a fate I would choose or wish for those who have to care for me.
If you mean, how long would I want to live without any physical or mental impairment, I'd say certainly not past my late 80s because I couldn't bear the loneliness of missing my peers, my brothers, my sisters-in-law, the friends I've shared life with, not to mention that I have no desire to see my children and their cousins turn 60, 70. I don't at all fear death, so what's the big deal? I'll be 67 this fall, I'm okay with leaving anytime.
I chose not beyond 90 no matter what, but actually I think 85 would be a good age to go. Beyond that I will probably become feeble and have trouble "performing the activities of daily living," as they say. But as long as I still have all my marbles and am capable of living independently, I'll stick around.
I don't want to live past 85. My 89 year old mom is also very sharp but has been in pain for years. Pain killers make her nauseous or she is worried about taking too large a dose and falling and breaking her hip. Also has atrial fibrillation and many small ailments. Is on at least 20 meds including prescribed supplements. She walks with a walker around her senior apartment and has to use an electric wheelchair to go to the dining hall. Mom would just like to die in her sleep. She was able to drive up until age 85 or so but mostly short trips and it probably was not safe towards the end of her driving. Now we can take her places but she tires out after a couple of hours and is exhausted the rest of the day - goes to bed about 7 pm although I think she reads in bed for an hour or two.
But I have to admit that I visited my dad's 90 year old brother this summer who lives out of state and he had much more stamina and fewer ailments than my mom although he also has to use a walker and was less mobile using it than her. We drove around with him for 8 hours looking at family places and went out for both breakfast and a late dinner. And got together the next day too. My mom would have been in bed for a week after that - much of it is due to her arthritis.
I had a conversation with some friends my age about how long they'd like to live, ideally, assuming decent health. So...assuming decent health, what is your longevity wish?
forever. i like it here . i know what i am dealing with here . the unknown-not so much . stop - drop-roll may not work where i may end up ha ha ha
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