U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Retirement
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 02-02-2008, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Home is where the heart is
15,400 posts, read 25,815,911 times
Reputation: 18992

Advertisements

Quote:
Originally Posted by willdufauve View Post
Some posters on tight incomes have said they're considering living with roommates in order to afford a better place than they can get on their own income.

Since we're 60 and already own a house, but are concerned about being able to afford it as we age, I'm wondering what would be an acceptable roommate situation for most people.

For example, we're non-smoking, health conscious vegetarians...some people appreciate that, others would prefer a smoke, a steak, and a good stiff drink. Would you share a house with a couple? Strangers, or a friend or family member you already know?

Let's explore this as a possible alternative to isolation and financial distress.
We routinely have family members living with us from time to time. For the most part it has been a good experience, although we are careful to establish rules right from the beginning. Also, the people in my family know not to be jerks... and that if they are they can find a new place to live.

I think a friend could work out well, too. I would be a little hesitant to take in a complete stranger--but it might be just fine if you both have certain outside things in common (both belong to the same church, for example).

A roommate needs to have a certain amount of space that is theirs. A bedroom, a bathroom, a parking space, a defined section of the pantry. You have to be willing to give that person domain over their space. In other words, if that person is given a shelf to put away their groceries, you must be willing to tolerate the way that person organizes the shelf. You must be willing to let that person keep his room clean in the way he sees fit--yes, it is your house but unless the roommate is damaging the structure of your house keep out of his room.

I personally like the idea. I know my sister will eventually come live with us when she decides to retire. It will be good to have her company, and good to have the security of knowing somebody is around in case one of us gets injured or we need some extra help one day.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 02-02-2008, 01:27 PM
 
Location: northeast US
739 posts, read 1,881,533 times
Reputation: 446
Quote:
Originally Posted by normie View Post
You must be willing to let that person keep his room clean in the way he sees fit--yes, it is your house but unless the roommate is damaging the structure of your house keep out of his room.
No problem...lesson learned big time, used to have a teenage daughter.

Thanks for your post normie. You have an enviable family situation.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-02-2008, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Home is where the heart is
15,400 posts, read 25,815,911 times
Reputation: 18992
Quote:
Originally Posted by willdufauve View Post
You have an enviable family situation.
Thank you--it's something I have worked hard for. I had an extremely unhappy family situation in my teens. Left home at 17, bummed around the country for awhile, lived an extremely independent life, dealt with a few bad situations. In my early 20's I lived in a rough neighborhood in DC and was assaulted one night when I was walking home.

I was lucky enough to be able to move in with my aunt while I recovered. Of course, I didn't realize at the time how lucky I was. I was horrified at the thought of moving out to the suburbs. Living with my aunt changed my life, and I have never looked back. I learned to live a functional life (not dysfunctional), put myself through school, and married a man with a similar life story. We've been very committed to the idea that the strong family members pull the weaker ones through hard times, just like my aunt did for me.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Retirement
Similar Threads
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top