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Old 12-14-2015, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Sylmar, a part of Los Angeles
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I worked in a fairly small machine shop the last 13 years of working. I used to stop in when I was going that way occasionally and they were always happy to see me. But its been 10 years now and I drove right by last week and didn't stop. I felt kind of afraid to, after all its a buisness where everyone is working.
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Old 12-14-2015, 10:59 AM
 
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I retired 5 years ago and, over that period, my interest in keeping in touch has gradually tailed off. The firm does do events for certain retirees and I cherry pick which ones interest me but not based on who might be there; it is more on how much fun or how interesting the event might be. So, now, my only contacts are with colleagues who became friends and we do not discuss work.
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Old 12-14-2015, 11:12 AM
 
Location: San Diego CA
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Retired 7 years ago. Get a annual invitation to the company retiree luncheon. Have never gone since I now live 2k miles from my old company. I have 3 old work mates on Facebook.
I also still get an annual request to contribute to United Way which I ignore. Figure the upper management folks can handle that.
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Old 12-14-2015, 11:13 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I get together on an irregular basis for lunch with a few former colleagues with whom I've kept in touch. The war stories and the news of other people are fun.

There is one situation of a regular lunch - second Monday every other month - for retirees from a particular work site. That is an open event, and there may be people I like as well as people I don't. I go sometimes and generally enjoy it.
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Old 12-14-2015, 11:35 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Making time to keep a true friendship alive is more difficult when people worked together but that was their only contact time.
Yeah. I know. I had to marry one to get enough time with her and keep it alive.

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IF you have friends from work that really are friends and not nice co-workers then it is worth taking time keep in touch. IF you only exchanged pleasantries sitting in the lunch room or before a meeting started--that is not much to give up.
I keep in touch with one from my last place of work and only her. After I retired and before my wife and I moved, she and I met for coffee one morning a week after which she went to work and I went to a nearby farmers market.

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Old 12-14-2015, 11:55 AM
 
Location: NC
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A lot has to do with the culture of the place you retired from. Was it friendly and supportive? Were employees encouraged to get together and congregate for lunch and breaktimes? Were you ever invited to your boss's house? Or was it every man for himself, sports talk, and dog eat dog with a superficial smile? If the former then you might have developed actual friendships. When I retired I was 15 yrs older than almost everyone in the department. There was not a lot to bind us together other than the work aspects. And this was a multinational company. The company never respected its retirees by inviting them back for events like Christmas lunches. They were too worried they'd spill the secrets.
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Old 12-14-2015, 12:01 PM
 
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Making time to keep a true friendship alive is more difficult when people worked together but that was their only contact time.

Yeah. I know. I had to marry one to get enough time with her and keep it alive....
Funny
I have never worked with anyone I would have wanted to date/marry--but married fairly early and then was stay at home mom for long time...
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Old 12-14-2015, 12:11 PM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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I retired 3 years ago this month, by selling my trucking business. I sold it to a group of sons of my former employees. Part of the deal was that I would hold some stock in the company (partial financing, as they did not have cash, just a loan). I am also a consultant if any issues come up that they need help with.

So in that respect, I do keep in touch, although it is not very often now.

The ones that I really enjoy seeing, when I am in my former state (RI) are the actual guys that I worked with, the dads of the boys who run the company now. These are my old hunting and fishing buddies! We still get together at the gun club, or to charter a fishing boat. For me, it's good stuff!
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Old 12-14-2015, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I see some of my ex coworkers every day on Facebook. I still have a really close relationship with a few ex coworkers from all of my jobs that I see from time to time. I haven't gone back for visits to any of the places I left for any functions. I just don't feel the need.
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Old 12-14-2015, 03:08 PM
 
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jim9251, I do not use Facebook, so my question is 'the employees complain and whine' publicly so that anyone reading can see it, or are only certain 'friends' able to see the complaining and whining about the company?

just curious
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