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Old 12-29-2015, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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Bada Bing!!!
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Old 12-29-2015, 05:33 PM
 
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I think it's a period of adjustment...

Very good friend retired and it put a strain the first few months... she was the homemaker and he the breadwinner...

Took him about a month to clear all the honey do things for which she was grateful... then he started doing her housework and/or said she was not doing it right after 40 years of marriage.

With 4 married daughters he asked if anyone needed help... one needed a sitter for 5 hours twice a week and another was looking for someone to mow... and in no time he had a schedule and some very grateful kids...

They were able to make adjustments and move forward...
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Old 12-29-2015, 07:16 PM
 
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I am glad for this thread. It is good to know that not all marriages are about doing things together all the time. People have different need for space and for company. We both need space but when one gets lonely we just walk in and start a conversation, plan a trip, about some project, or politics.
I am more active with outside activities than DH but he is happy with his PC, chatting on the phone with friends, stuff around the house, make needed phone calls, shopping for tires for my car - all from his man cave which actually is well fit. I cook he cleans. He washes, I fold. Then we go do our own stuff. We both read, I books, he magazines. We travel, but those times don't always go well.
And so it goes.
Maybe the OP should just relax a bit and find connections. First stop being so tired and angry. That will most surely make you feel old.
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Old 12-29-2015, 07:59 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I can't help ya. I can never get enough of my wife.
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Old 12-30-2015, 05:49 AM
 
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According to your thread of less than a week ago on the Relationship forum, regarding separate bedrooms and the man cave, your marriage has just "improved 100%". So now a week later you "get on each others nerves and see too much of each other". Maybe you need a whole separate house. If I were your wife I certainly wouldn't ant to spend time with someone who is "old tired and angry".
Thanks for pointing this out. And where is the OP if this is so important??
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Old 12-30-2015, 07:14 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Thanks for pointing this out. And where is the OP if this is so important??
Filling out another profile so he can create a new batch of posts under a new username
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Old 12-30-2015, 07:56 AM
 
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My wife is still working a full-time job at 67, but I take care of most of the home (apartment) duties while she is at work........like laundry/separating clothes, loading/running/unloading dishwasher, stripping the bed/putting on clean sheets, vacuuming, dusting, cooking and cleaning the floors. I miss her when she's at work, so look very forward to weekends when she's at home.

"Man Cave" or whatever they call it......not for me! My wife loves NFL (and knows the sport), has her own firearms and goes with me to the Range, likes fishing and cruising around in our '92 Celebrity Cuddy Cabin and we love watching movies. With a wife like that, who need buddies (lol).

Unless one of us are sick, where one of us goes, the other goes to. We have our little "spats" at times, but a "I'm sorry" w/a hug and quick smooch ends the spat. Been married 15 years next March and love the times we spend together. Very, very compatible!
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Old 12-30-2015, 07:58 AM
 
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My wife is still working a full-time job at 67, but I take care of most of the home (apartment) duties while she is at work........like laundry/separating clothes, loading/running/unloading dishwasher, stripping the bed/putting on clean sheets, vacuuming, dusting, cooking and cleaning the floors. I miss her when she's at work, so look very forward to weekends when she's at home.

"Man Cave" or whatever they call it......not for me! My wife loves NFL (and knows the sport), has her own firearms and goes with me to the Range, likes fishing and cruising around in our '92 Celebrity Cuddy Cabin and we love watching movies. With a wife like that, who need buddies (lol).

Unless one of us are sick, where one of us goes, the other goes to. We have our little "spats" at times, but a "I'm sorry" w/a hug and quick smooch ends the spat. Been married 15 years next March and love the times we spend together. Very, very compatible!
Y'all are very lucky!
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Old 12-30-2015, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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My wife is still working a full-time job at 67, but I take care of most of the home (apartment) duties while she is at work........like laundry/separating clothes, loading/running/unloading dishwasher, stripping the bed/putting on clean sheets, vacuuming, dusting, cooking and cleaning the floors. I miss her when she's at work, so look very forward to weekends when she's at home.

"Man Cave" or whatever they call it......not for me! My wife loves NFL (and knows the sport), has her own firearms and goes with me to the Range, likes fishing and cruising around in our '92 Celebrity Cuddy Cabin and we love watching movies. With a wife like that, who need buddies (lol).

Unless one of us are sick, where one of us goes, the other goes to. We have our little "spats" at times, but a "I'm sorry" w/a hug and quick smooch ends the spat. Been married 15 years next March and love the times we spend together. Very, very compatible!

That sounds awesome. Oh and congrats on the 15 years. It took me 16 years to train my wife. Now she is fully trained and obedient (LOL). Yeah right and if you believe that I have the deed to the Brooklyn Bridge to sell you. Still 35 years and counting is nothing to sneeze at.

That being said, a 1992 Celebrity Cuddy Cabbin? Hmmmm how big? I am very much interested in getting a Cuddy. I am thinking new but.... I have never owned a boat bigger than a 12 foot row boat. In retirement I want to run about the lake in a nice boat. So I have been looking at them.
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Old 12-30-2015, 12:16 PM
 
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It's a Celebrity 200 (20 footer) w/a nice Mercruiser 5.7L I/O on a nice dual-wheel trailer. Had it since March '09. Have had to put on new manifolds and risers, new lower block/belts, alternator and installed Dual-Battery Switch for Starting and Deep Cell batteries. This Spring will get the deck replaced due to a few soft spots. Cuddy Cabin is a little too small for both of us to sleep in. Have never taken it out overnight and don't intend to. But, once "up on plane", it sure can go!

Our last boat was a 1989 16' Invader Bowrider w/a Volvo-Penta 4 cyclinder. Got that after we moved to Denver, CO./south metro. Done quite a bit of trout fishing in the No Wake area of a popular lake/reservoir south of Denver. Also, "beached" it a few times and relaxed on the lake beach.

Wife's mom/dad had a cottage on Zukey Lake in Michigan, when she was in high school. Got her boating experience from there.
My Uncle had a Bowrider in northeastern Indiana when I was a teen and I use to go out with him on local lake. Plus, spent some years in the U.S. Navy, on the water.


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That sounds awesome. Oh and congrats on the 15 years. It took me 16 years to train my wife. Now she is fully trained and obedient (LOL). Yeah right and if you believe that I have the deed to the Brooklyn Bridge to sell you. Still 35 years and counting is nothing to sneeze at.

That being said, a 1992 Celebrity Cuddy Cabbin? Hmmmm how big? I am very much interested in getting a Cuddy. I am thinking new but.... I have never owned a boat bigger than a 12 foot row boat. In retirement I want to run about the lake in a nice boat. So I have been looking at them.
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