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Old 12-28-2015, 12:51 PM
 
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Back when I was young, energetic and happy, I worked 12 hours a day six days a week. I spent lots of time with friends and family and got involved in many church and community activities. I did not see all that much of my wife because we were each doing our own thing.

Now that we are retired, we get on each others nerves and see too much of each other. I have solved that problem somewhat by moving down to my man cave when I want to be alone but that is just not doing the trick.

So, how do you get your own space and not get on your spouses nerves when you first retire and are home alot more?
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Old 12-28-2015, 12:55 PM
 
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There have been threads about this exact topic with lots of replies. Easy enough to find with the "search forums" (above)
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Old 12-28-2015, 01:43 PM
 
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There have been threads about this exact topic with lots of replies. Easy enough to find with the "search forums" (above)
If so those people who responded have moved on and it would be better to get a new 2015 response.
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Old 12-28-2015, 02:28 PM
 
Location: Close to an earthquake
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Back when I was young, energetic and happy, I worked 12 hours a day six days a week. I spent lots of time with friends and family and got involved in many church and community activities. I did not see all that much of my wife because we were each doing our own thing.

Now that we are retired, we get on each others nerves and see too much of each other. I have solved that problem somewhat by moving down to my man cave when I want to be alone but that is just not doing the trick.

So, how do you get your own space and not get on your spouses nerves when you first retire and are home alot more?
When you figure it out, write a book about it and I'll buy your first autographed copy.
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Old 12-28-2015, 02:38 PM
 
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Find a hobby that you can enjoy with just your buddies, which your wife HATES. Satisfy both you, and your wife, for a few hours, perhaps even every day or two?

We aren't retired yet, but have been doing this for 41 years. Yes, go play golf. Yes, go shooting at the range. Yes, go to LOWES (he can spend HOURS there).
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Old 12-28-2015, 02:49 PM
 
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Join a club, take community college classes, volunteer at your church, bevome a mentor, take up photography, get an exercise plan in motion, learn a new language....
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Old 12-28-2015, 03:00 PM
 
Location: I am right here.
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Back when I was young, energetic and happy, I worked 12 hours a day six days a week. I spent lots of time with friends and family and got involved in many church and community activities. I did not see all that much of my wife because we were each doing our own thing.

Now that we are retired, we get on each others nerves and see too much of each other. I have solved that problem somewhat by moving down to my man cave , creating endless CD user names, and posting baiting threads when I want to be alone but that is just not doing the trick.

So, how do you get your own space and not get on your spouses nerves when you first retire and are home alot more?
Fixed it for you.
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Old 12-28-2015, 03:10 PM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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Did you go from "young, energetic, and happy", working 12 hour days, etc directly to retirement ? Hiding in the basement is not working? Did your wife (silly woman) think you would want to spend more time with her once you both retired?


It is an adjustment for some couples. You can either refill your life with activities away from the house or get to know your wife and see if you have a marriage worth living as a couple. The answer may be "no".


What is her side of the story?
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Old 12-28-2015, 03:17 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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My husband and I have always been close. The space is the big houseroom when he goes out with his friends and I'm with mine.
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Old 12-28-2015, 03:18 PM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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I feel sorry for the wife. If there is a wife.
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