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Old 01-14-2016, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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And what about people who never got married, they never got any benefit from any marriage either, shared housing, shared expense, shared benefits like health insurance, etc.. I have relatives in this category. Even to buy a house they have to rely on their own savings, same with retirement. They have to do it alone.
I completely understand as this is the situation I'm in. I'm a somewhat above average earner in a reasonable cost city, and it's just plain tougher to do everything solo. Housing costs get cheaper per person the more people you have contributing in a household. Same goes for transportation costs (you'll have two cars - but the costs probably won't double overall), food (it's easy to waste food when cooking for one), and just about anything else.
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Old 01-14-2016, 09:49 AM
 
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You would think that for how often I say we are blessed people would get a clue as to who I am attributing much of our good fortune to. Truth be told things could be a lot worse for us if not bad but we were blessed and know who to be thankful to.
So you attribute your luck to a supernatural being who smites others with thunderbolts, but not you, because you are protected by some kind of cosmic shield. That's an interesting, albeit self-serving, theory. It explains a lot of things you post here.
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Old 01-14-2016, 09:55 AM
 
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So you attribute your luck to a supernatural being who smites others with thunderbolts, but not you, because you are protected by some kind of cosmic shield. That's an interesting, albeit self-serving, theory. It explains a lot of things you post here.
Mine is out for repairs at the cosmic shield shop. I don't have a defined benefit pension. I don't have an inheritance coming. I have a couple of ex-wives who set me back financially in divorce settlements. Either I proactively make sure I have my retirement funded or I eat dog food and sleep in a cardboard box like freemkt the moment I stop working. I'm not going to have one of those EF Hutton golf tournament commercial retirements but I should be comfortable if I keep my eye on the ball for another 8 years even if the stock market does another total meltdown.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:10 AM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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He's ended up buying her a very nice condo and they bought a new luxury SUV right before they divorced. The alimony payments are on top of that.

She can get back in the labor force in a meaningful way, but it's going to be a huge adjustment.
A nice place to live, a luxury suv and 48K?? Give me a break. That is probably worth 70K a year at least. She is better off than the majority of the population and is a fool if she doesn't take advantage.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:12 AM
 
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I wonder why the supernatural being loves some so much that they are blessed with defined benefit pensions, while others he hates so much that they are blessed with abusive homes and mistreated until they are murdered.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/...-storage-unit/
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Asheville NC
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I completely understand as this is the situation I'm in. I'm a somewhat above average earner in a reasonable cost city, and it's just plain tougher to do everything solo. Housing costs get cheaper per person the more people you have contributing in a household. Same goes for transportation costs (you'll have two cars - but the costs probably won't double overall), food (it's easy to waste food when cooking for one), and just about anything else.
I often think that young people are doing themselves a disservice by waiting so long to get married.(if they want to get married) -Finding someone compatible in college, grad school or early in a career, has to be easier than when you are 30ish and scattered all over the country, away from friends and family connections. Of course divorce happens. Though making good decisions, getting an education, whether college or trade, mitigates the statistics downward.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:27 AM
 
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You would think that for how often I say we are blessed people would get a clue as to who I am attributing much of our good fortune to. Truth be told things could be a lot worse for us if not bad but we were blessed and know who to be thankful to.
I don't get this comment. You mean if people believed in your faith/power, they'd be blessed too? I'm very thankful for what I have and yes it could be a lot worse for me too, especially with some of my limitations, but I would never impose my own faith/beliefs toward other people's situtations, good or bad.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:48 AM
 
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I don't get this comment. You mean if people believed in your faith/power, they'd be blessed too? I'm very thankful for what I have and yes it could be a lot worse for me too, especially with some of my limitations, but I would never impose my own faith/beliefs toward other people's situtations, good or bad.
No not at all not all. I am very understanding of the misfortunes life can bestow upon us. I have had my pitfalls and my situations where I could have lost much of it all. However I know that when I want to be thankful for what I have I know it comes with the blessings from above. Now you can reject that and that is fine and thus is freedom. You can pray or not pray and that is fine if that's what you want. However understand your acceptance or rejection is not part nor is it necessary for me to have my faith and to give thanks whenever and However I want to. Now we shall drop the role of faith in this discussion and I will once again say we feel blessed for our good fortune.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Living rent free in your head
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You would think that for how often I say we are blessed people would get a clue as to who I am attributing much of our good fortune to. Truth be told things could be a lot worse for us if not bad but we were blessed and know who to be thankful to.
How are we blessed? We have families living in their cars, people who work every day but can't both pay their rent and buy groceries. We have kids who through no fault of their own are born into crime infested ghettos with no way out. Decent people die every day before their kids reach adulthood or they are struck with a disabling condition that renders them unable to care for themselves. Seems like an awful lot of people in this Country were overlooked when the blessings got handed out.
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Old 01-14-2016, 10:49 AM
 
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I wonder why the supernatural being loves some so much that they are blessed with defined benefit pensions, while others he hates so much that they are blessed with abusive homes and mistreated until they are murdered.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/...-storage-unit/
Those are questions that have mystified us for time and often become the reason why our faith is so often tested! Had to respond once more now back on topic posters. Sorry, whew if folks only knew.
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