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Old 01-10-2016, 07:24 AM
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If something happened to you tomorrow such as a sudden illness/accident etc. your employer would have to scramble to find a replacement for you. So, I think by giving them a definite date will allow them to plan now for your planned departure.

I like the idea that another poster recommended of putting your house up for sale now and if it sells sooner rather than later they would be willing to cover the cost of a rental thru August if they definitely need you thru August.

Giving your employer a definite "final date", (but, it could be sooner if your house sells quickly plan) would be good for you and your employer.

You know you will definitely end your employment as of a August (or sooner if your house sells). Your employer can decide if they would be willing to cover an extended stay hotel to keep you on board thru August.

Not giving them a definite date gives them no incentive to find your replacement. You are actually making it harder for your employer until you make a decision and give them a definite date.
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Old 01-10-2016, 07:32 AM
Location: Cochise County, AZ
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Don't make yourself sick stressing over making a decision. Find a very peaceful, relaxing place then listen to your "inner self."
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Old 01-10-2016, 10:48 AM
Location: Los Angeles area
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The OP has, or is about to, give a definite date. "Or sooner" makes no sense. Why would the employer pay for his rental if the house sells quickly? He is well compensated at work (as he should be for his knowledge and skills) and therefore is responsible for his own housing.

I don't get why several posters are so anxious that the OP make this or that demand on his employer. He is richly blessed and very fortunate that he has been treated well and loves his work. He is blessed and fortunate that he wants to do the right thing for the ongong programs and for his fellow employees. This is a great attitude to have, a very satisfying attitude as opposed to a "screw them" attitude.

Note that I am not saying that people who have the "screw them" attitude are not justified; they may well be fully justified because they may have been screwed over royally by their employer. But that mindset seems to intrude into the advice given to the OP here.

OP, follow your own conscience and it will always be a source of satisfaction to you that you did the right thing.
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Old 01-10-2016, 01:17 PM
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If something happened to you tomorrow such as a sudden illness/accident etc. your employer would have to scramble to find a replacement for you. So, I think by giving them a definite date will allow them to plan now for your planned departure.
That's a perfect reminder or us all…who stress about our jobs. God forbid we dropped dead ….the job would either have someone else in our seat the next day. or it wouldn't. Someone would do it on overtime, or someone else would muddle through for a couple of days.

People drop dead, get into accidents, disappear, quit (with ho notice) everyday -- and the company keeps going….the job gets done -- or it waits.

If you dropped dead they'd figure it out and manage….AND have the sudden grief and shock to deal with. Retiring ,even if they don't have a replacement -- would be no where near as stressful or challenging.

At my job we literally have ONE person who's THE best in his department -- head and shoulders above the rest. He's an engineer/tech person for a major employer. We worker bees have said more than once. "God forbid anything happens to him. If any of out equipment goes down before the others are up to speed -- we'll be up $#!t's Creek". But if the bosses haven't made sure there's back up….why should we, or that worker, feel extra stressed about it. They've been warned and told more than once.

So, OP retire when you want to. You've been more than fair to your employer.
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Old 01-10-2016, 09:40 PM
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Figure out about how much minimum you would need to live on for the next 20-30 years and go from there. Could you live on 4,000 a month? If so use that as a base. Or just retire and get a part-time job to fill time.

Here's the deal. Consider how many years you have worked and about how many years you have left to live. Go from there. What you don't spend or enjoy someone else will.
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Old 01-11-2016, 08:30 PM
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Our lives are full of challenges, but never did we spend enough time preparing for retirement, both physically and emotionally.

Some people ease right into it, some feel they have lost their soul. If only we had realized that our jobs aren't the sole definition of who we are. The transition would be so much easier. I really didn't take my job so seriously that it defined me. But my husband is lost! Everyone is different.

My father wouldn't let go of his business until he was 82. It was so hard on the family trying to help him make it work.

Life can be shortened in a heartbeat. My healthy SIS died of a heart attack and it was shortly after her retirement decision that her husband was so thrilled of her choice to leave her job. We all truly believe it was the stress which she had thrived on all her life.

So exhale, don't worry so much, and do what you WANT to do, rather than what you should or shouldn't do. I have found the word WANT really helps in making life decisions less complicated.
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Old 01-12-2016, 12:02 PM
Location: Idaho
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Default final followup

Thank you all for your input. I've come to a decision, and let my management know.

I'll be delaying retirement from this coming August, 2016 until March, 2017. It is a good compromise and everything seem to fall together as that being the best date.

It will allow my project manager to have the best shot at hiring a new college graduate, if that is the direction they want to go, (their first choice, I think). It will allow me this summer and its extended daylight hours to get the house in order to put on the market. It is the best time for training opportunities for the new instrument operator, (some things are seasonal). And, it will be just after my 34th anniversary here. It will even allow me to teach one more semester at the college. Moving in the Spring or Summer is a whole lot 'better' than the late Autumn or Winter.

Thanks again, everyone. (Back into lurk mode.)
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