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I was told using the term widow was outdated? Is this true and if this is true what am I??? I know I am single, but, for some weird reason I hate to invalidate my entire marriage as if it never existed
Of course the term isn't outdated. You are free to consider yourself however is the most comfortable for you.
That is just as bad as someone telling you how you "should feel", when they are not the ones faced with a situation.
Well, being divorced I don't choose that option because it doesn't seem to be anyone's business - I use the "single" option. What do you do if you've been divorced or widowed and then remarry - both divorced/widowed AND married would be correct.
Use whatever you feel best describes you. I'll bet many use widowed at first and perhaps more switch to single later, especially if widowed at an early age?
Well, being divorced I don't choose that option because it doesn't seem to be anyone's business - I use the "single" option. What do you do if you've been divorced or widowed and then remarry - both divorced/widowed AND married would be correct.
Use whatever you feel best describes you. I'll bet many use widowed at first and perhaps more switch to single later, especially if widowed at an early age?
Good point. I've been widowed since I was 37...and sure did hate that word back then. After so many years, I now consider myself more "single" than "widowed", especially once I was widowed more years than I had been married.
However, I don't understand this "outdated" business. To the original poster, refer to yourself however you like. 'Nuff said.
I don't know how a valid word for someone's marital status could be outdated. If YOU personally don't like the word, call yourself single. Same with "divorced". I never listed myself as divorced. Once I was divorced, I called myself single.
I find it kind of odd when a divorced person calls themselves a widow or widower after their ex dies. If they aren't your spouse when they die, I don't think you're a widow or widower. Seems sort of like they are going for sympathy or to upgrade their status somehow. I don't know why, just bugs me.
I was told using the term widow was outdated? Is this true and if this is true what am I??? I know I am single, but, for some weird reason I hate to invalidate my entire marriage as if it never existed
If someone told my Mother "Oh you're not a widow, you're single now" she'd have slapped them with a family picture and said "Oh? And what the @#$%^& is this then?.....
If someone told my Mother "Oh you're not a widow, you're single now" she'd have slapped them with a family picture and said "Oh? And what the @#$%^& is this then?.....
Exactly! I was widowed at forty one with three children to raise. I may have been single but I was also a widow.
OP, I can't imagine anyone telling you that widow is outdated, that is truly moronic.
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