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Old 01-06-2016, 06:18 AM
 
Location: MA
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I was told using the term widow was outdated? Is this true and if this is true what am I??? I know I am single, but, for some weird reason I hate to invalidate my entire marriage as if it never existed
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:21 AM
 
Location: SC
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Of course the term isn't outdated. You are free to consider yourself however is the most comfortable for you.
That is just as bad as someone telling you how you "should feel", when they are not the ones faced with a situation.
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:35 AM
 
Location: Cochise County, AZ
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Hmm widow is outdated? Try telling that to the IRS lol
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:44 AM
 
Location: I am right here.
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No, it's definitely not outdated. I'm a widow. I see it on various forms all the time.
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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Well, being divorced I don't choose that option because it doesn't seem to be anyone's business - I use the "single" option. What do you do if you've been divorced or widowed and then remarry - both divorced/widowed AND married would be correct.

Use whatever you feel best describes you. I'll bet many use widowed at first and perhaps more switch to single later, especially if widowed at an early age?
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Old 01-06-2016, 06:52 AM
 
Location: AZ
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Hmm widow is outdated? Try telling that to the IRS lol
Or to the black widow that was spinning a web outside our patio door. Time to call the exterminator...again.
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Old 01-06-2016, 09:08 AM
 
Location: East Coast
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Well, being divorced I don't choose that option because it doesn't seem to be anyone's business - I use the "single" option. What do you do if you've been divorced or widowed and then remarry - both divorced/widowed AND married would be correct.

Use whatever you feel best describes you. I'll bet many use widowed at first and perhaps more switch to single later, especially if widowed at an early age?
Good point. I've been widowed since I was 37...and sure did hate that word back then. After so many years, I now consider myself more "single" than "widowed", especially once I was widowed more years than I had been married.

However, I don't understand this "outdated" business. To the original poster, refer to yourself however you like. 'Nuff said.
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Old 01-06-2016, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I don't know how a valid word for someone's marital status could be outdated. If YOU personally don't like the word, call yourself single. Same with "divorced". I never listed myself as divorced. Once I was divorced, I called myself single.

I find it kind of odd when a divorced person calls themselves a widow or widower after their ex dies. If they aren't your spouse when they die, I don't think you're a widow or widower. Seems sort of like they are going for sympathy or to upgrade their status somehow. I don't know why, just bugs me.
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Old 01-06-2016, 10:17 AM
 
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I was told using the term widow was outdated? Is this true and if this is true what am I??? I know I am single, but, for some weird reason I hate to invalidate my entire marriage as if it never existed
If someone told my Mother "Oh you're not a widow, you're single now" she'd have slapped them with a family picture and said "Oh? And what the @#$%^& is this then?.....
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Old 01-06-2016, 10:59 AM
 
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If someone told my Mother "Oh you're not a widow, you're single now" she'd have slapped them with a family picture and said "Oh? And what the @#$%^& is this then?.....
Exactly! I was widowed at forty one with three children to raise. I may have been single but I was also a widow.

OP, I can't imagine anyone telling you that widow is outdated, that is truly moronic.
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