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Old 01-19-2016, 08:26 PM
 
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I'm in complete agreement with the OP. I'm 70ish , and my lovely bride is generally a very patient person (she raised a developmentally/physically disabled child more or less alone) but she get very irritated with me because of my hearing issues. Yes I have hearing aides ($2700 for the pair - basic models) but they don't seem to make a whole lot of difference except for high pitched sounds (microwave beeping, etc). Turning up the volume generally doesn't do much but make for a louder muffled sound. Consequently I watch very little television, etc.


Out in public I'm sure I often give nonsensical answers ala "in the navy", etc. I can live with that. The real concern is when I am trying to communicate with a Doctor/Dentist/city official/etc when I really really need to understand what is said and I can't.


Mahalo
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Old 01-19-2016, 08:27 PM
 
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Hands down, stupidity. I have absolutely no tolerance for stupid people.
This comment says more about the poster than those "stupid people"....... Just sayin.
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Old 01-20-2016, 02:56 AM
 
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Hands down, stupidity. I have absolutely no tolerance for stupid people.
A reaction that I also have sometimes, but it is not one that I am very comfortable with. People can behave "stupidly" for many reasons. Some people are probably downright despicable, others have problems to do with mental or social shortcomings which are not necessarily apparent.

It is difficult, perhaps almost impossible much of the time, but I have come to feel more and more often that it is a good idea to step on my tongue when dealing with people I find "stupid." If stupid makes for trouble, lunging for the throat of stupid is no improvement probably.
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Old 01-20-2016, 06:21 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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This comment says more about the poster than those "stupid people"....... Just sayin.
Probably a know it all and those of us who think they know it all are least appreciated by those of us who do...
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Old 01-20-2016, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Divided Tribes of America
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Any kind of mental illness is seen as a weakness or defect in character by most people, instead of a debilitating condition.
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Old 01-20-2016, 09:33 AM
 
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Any kind of mental illness is seen as a weakness or defect in character by most people, instead of a debilitating condition.
Of course! If you are old enough to remember Dr. Marcus Welby on the tube, he could cure almost any addiction/depression/etc just by giving you a stern talking to.
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Old 01-20-2016, 09:42 AM
 
Location: West Central Ohio
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I'm in complete agreement with the OP. I'm 70ish , and my lovely bride is generally a very patient person (she raised a developmentally/physically disabled child more or less alone) but she get very irritated with me because of my hearing issues. Yes I have hearing aides ($2700 for the pair - basic models) but they don't seem to make a whole lot of difference except for high pitched sounds (microwave beeping, etc). Turning up the volume generally doesn't do much but make for a louder muffled sound. Consequently I watch very little television, etc.


Out in public I'm sure I often give nonsensical answers ala "in the navy", etc. I can live with that. The real concern is when I am trying to communicate with a Doctor/Dentist/city official/etc when I really really need to understand what is said and I can't.


Mahalo
Mahalo, how long has it been since you had a new pair of hearing aids? Are the ones you have analog or digital. Digital hearing aids are little computers that are programmed to your exact loss. If it has been a good while since you had your hearing checked, being that your pretty much miserable, have your hearing checked and your hearing aids adjusted if they are digital
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Old 01-20-2016, 09:56 AM
 
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Mahalo, how long has it been since you had a new pair of hearing aids? Are the ones you have analog or digital. Digital hearing aids are little computers that are programmed to your exact loss. If it has been a good while since you had your hearing checked, being that your pretty much miserable, have your hearing checked and your hearing aids adjusted if they are digital

They are not quite 4 years old. Siemens digital. Had them "tuned up" in December of 2014 before we moved from Florida to Hawaii. Will probably replace them in the next few months. I'm not sure there is a Siemens dealer on the Big Island, so I may end up at Costco.


Thanks for your concern!
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Old 01-20-2016, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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OP: "Did you know that a hearing loss is the least accepted? It makes people mad when someone cannot understand what is being said. This loss is the most ridiculed."

"Depression, drug abuse, mental health etc these disabilities are a different topic. This post isn't to discount them."

"I am referring to just this post as to why I am making a difference. The others belong in a different post. Feel free to make a different post. I am talking about how people react to people who have a hearing loss. They get "MAD" at you, acting like your ignoring them on purpose."

"Maybe I should have rephrased my title but I still think people are unkind to those who cannot hear because they don't believe that you have a problem. They take it personally."
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How about this? I will give you the same advice that others give to those suffering from depression.

"Get over it." Or, my personal favorite, "Suck it up, Buttercup."
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Old 01-20-2016, 11:29 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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Note to self - just say "this is bad and it bothers me" if you start a thread about an ailment. Do not say it is worse than something else or tell people not to bring up other things or the thread will go off the rails...
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