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Old 02-03-2016, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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Don't you think we know this? Just because of your relationship with your mother, don't think to judge all HOH people.

Of course we know what we have to do. Try living with it 24/7.

Sorry, I found your post very condescending.
It is unfortunate that you find MaryLee's post as condescending (which is interesting in itself). As mentioned multiple times throughout this thread, there are either HOH people who do NOT know what to do or worse, they don't give a s***.

BTW, I was born to a young mother who had a profound hearing loss. She refused to wear a hearing aid until she was much, much older, but she knew "what to do".

And then there are HOH people like my father...
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Old 02-03-2016, 03:25 PM
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Location: Georgia
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Sorry, I found your post very condescending.
I agree completely.
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Old 02-05-2016, 12:36 AM
 
Location: RVA
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I totally disagree, not condescending at all and totally true with the perhaps 20 hard of hearing people I know. People that have slowly developed hearing loss are much more likely to be in denial and ignore any attempt to help themselves or act on actions to remedy or remediate their situation. I know 2 that have gotten aids that work and are used constantly, and their losses are not severe, but they initiated doing something about it. People born with hearing loss or lifelong hearing loss seem to assume that anyone with low hearing all act the same. Not even remotely true.
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Old 02-06-2016, 12:52 AM
 
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Don't you think we know this? Just because of your relationship with your mother, don't think to judge all HOH people.

Of course we know what we have to do. Try living with it 24/7.

Sorry, I found your post very condescending.

Try living with a HOH person 24/7. How am I being condescending by point out its a two-way street.
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Old 02-06-2016, 04:03 AM
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Location: Georgia
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Try living with a HOH person 24/7.
I do.
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Old 02-06-2016, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Houston/Brenham
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Try living with a HOH person 24/7. How am I being condescending by point out its a two-way street.
Because you're are talking about a handicapped person, and how difficult it is for YOU. And how they could make it easier for YOU if only THEIR behavior changed. And then you compound it by putting all of us HOH in the same basket.

I do understand you underlying point. I try to be *very* sympathetic to the people around me who have to put up with my hearing problems. But the way you said it came across as poor, poor pitiful me, why are you making my life so hard. Which again leads to my initial reply, try living it 24/7.

When a person has a life-altering disability, there are two sides to it. They live it 24/7. And someone lives it with them, 24/7. Neither is easy, and it's not hard for either or both to fall into a pity trap. I can't speak for all, nor do I have any stats on this, so I won't guess how it usually ends up. It takes an internal strength that most are never called on to live with disabilities. And my props to those on either side who make it work.
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Old 02-06-2016, 08:20 AM
 
Location: california
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My hearing is competing with ringing.
So some times I find my self SHOUTING just to hear what Im saying.
My wife thought I was yelling at her , made life complicated.
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