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Old 01-23-2016, 03:05 PM
Location: Pahoa Hawaii
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One day closer to death, no thanks.
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Old 01-23-2016, 03:18 PM
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Birthdays weren't stressed in my very large family and now I am glad it is not a big day anymore, as I anoint myself with my coming age about 6 mos before it happens and it's old news by my actual birthday.

I have friends who still declare it an important celebration, and that has to do with how they were raised, no doubt.

I don't criticize but don't really share that thought. Twelve to thirteen? momentous. High school age to college age? amazing transition!
One piece of my 60s decade to another? Not so much. I'm not seeing the milestone per se--though I am so grateful that everything's in working order so far.

Though I don't celebrate on my birthday in the sense of expecting or demanding gifts, I do offer up silent thanks for every year that has passed.
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Old 01-23-2016, 04:21 PM
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You only have one birthday. The rest are birth anniversaries. Way too much attention place on this Hallmark event.
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Old 01-23-2016, 04:32 PM
Location: Houston, TX
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Originally Posted by thinkalot View Post
Not a fan of birthdays. Going out to eat? I do that about every other day. Seeing friends? I see them almost every day. Cake? If I want cake I will bake one or buy one. I don't need a special day to eat cake. Parties? Again, I go to lots of parties. One more isn't necessary. Gifts? I want to get rid of stuff not add to it.
I can't believe all the Scrooges on this thread. Think about what a birthday signifies. It signifies us getting older, which means we aren't someone's worm food yet. That alone is a reason to celebrate. Another nice thing about birthdays is it's a day just for that particular celebrant. Let's say you have a hypothetical sister named Kathy, whose birthday is March 12th. It's a special day to fuss over Kathy, because no one else she knows has a birthday on March 12th. If Kathy has kids, she likely spends much of her life caring for them, and if she's married, spends a lot of her time fulfilling her role as wife. And if she is an employee, she's also busy doing whatever the boss says. When does Kathy celebrate just being Kathy, the wonderful lady she is? A birthday is a great reason to do just that, and Christmas, Thanksgiving, and the various other holidays aren't unique to the individual as a birthday is, thus these days don't function the same way. BTW, for those who argue that birthdays celebrate us being one day closer to death, each succeeding day brings us one day closer to death. That's not unique to the day of one's birthday, so we should still party
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Old 01-23-2016, 04:58 PM
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When I was in my late twenties, I had a friend who threw himself a third of a century birthday party. That seemed like an interesting idea. A few years later, I called my brother in the middle of our workdays, and wished him a happy third of a century. He thought about this for a few minutes. Then he said, "they don't give you enough to do at your job, do they?" That friend is now gone from this earth, but in his honor, seven years from now, circumstances permitting, you are all invited to my two thirds of a century birthday party.
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Old 01-23-2016, 05:24 PM
Location: Myrtle Beach
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I love celebrating my birthday, and hope to continue for many years. My family members and friends call or send cards, local friends and I get together and laugh and talk. It's celebrating being alive.
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Old 01-23-2016, 05:59 PM
Location: Naples, FL
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I do not enjoy my birthday at all. I am widowed. While I have 3 children, they hardly celebrate with me. Last year I was fortunate and had 2 friends celebrate with me after I shamelessly posted on Facebook that I would be alone.

Overall, birthdays just remind me that I am one step closer to the end.
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Old 01-23-2016, 06:47 PM
Location: Ocala, FL
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I'm excited about the one coming up in July. I'll be 62 and plan on filing for my SS. My family is not long-lived and I hate my job just enough that I'm willing to take it early. I may continue to work a bit, but it'll be nice to know I can quit and we'll still be able to eat.

DH and I take each other out on our birthdays to the one fantastic (and expensive) steakhouse here in Ocala. He always wants one of those nasty cakes with the gooey white icing, but I'm content with a cupcake. It's only the two of us, so we can pretty much do whatever we want.

His 70th birthday is next Friday and last night I took him out to a Gary Lewis & the Playboys concert since this is kind of a special birthday.

So, yes, we do care about birthdays. Childish, maybe, but we both grew up very poor and it's nice to be able to go out and celebrate making it through another year.
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Old 01-23-2016, 06:56 PM
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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Sure! Love my birthday--and my friends' birthdays, too. It's great to have a personal celebration that's all your own. Why not? Each of us are very special.
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Old 01-23-2016, 09:53 PM
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Scooby Snacks,

just because some people do not wish to go along with every culturally imposed custom or norm or idiocy, it does not mean they are 'Scrooges' as you deem them.
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