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Old 01-22-2016, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Near Manito
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I've got one coming up next week (maybe my last one with a zero), and I honestly wish everyone would just chill and ignore it. I mean, I can always eat cake. But getting presents, doing the party thing, etc., just doesn't hold much excitement for me at this stage of life.

How do others feel about this? Still look forward to blowing out that bonfire of candles?
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Old 01-22-2016, 09:41 PM
 
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do I care about my birthday? absolutely not, and I have not cared for decades, and really never cared much about it.

I think it's silly for adults to make a big deal about their birthday.

And I always thought it was completely asinine to celebrate birthdays on the job in the workplace. It was always forced upon us in my various workplaces.

When I see adults making a big deal about their own birthday, I think they have not matured and are childish, especially people in their late 20's, 30's, 40's who still want a celebration. just my opinion.

And when you get older, it just marks one more year closer to your own death and one less year of life which I do not appreciate commemorating. It's great to be alive.

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Old 01-22-2016, 09:46 PM
 
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Birthdays have not meant anything to me for decades either. I know people who have birthday months and celebrate the whole month. I agree with you both. Birthdays are for kids.
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Old 01-22-2016, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Interesting responses. I'd like it if my adult kids would send me a card or note on my birthday, but they don't. They remember after the fact, usually. It isn't as if they never remember. Both DH and I use our birthdays to buy things for ourselves that we want. In other words we choose our own gifts. For some reason, DH uses birthdays to buy things for himself that he might not ordinarily buy, and I guess I have begun doing the same.

But I don't need a celebration or party. I don't feel deprived without a cake or a party. I don't really think about it too much, actually, except as an excuse to obtain something somewhat costly without feeling guilty.

I have marked birthdays at work differently in the different places I worked at. Honestly a card from my work group with all their names on it and a few kind words written down, was more meaningful to me than a cake or gift.

I don't begrudge others' celebrations though. Every family and every workplace has its own customs. So, to each his own.
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:06 PM
 
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I'm content with having dinner out with my husband and at least a cupcake. One son always remembers to call; the other one is hit and miss:/
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:32 PM
 
Location: The Berk in Denver, CO USA
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Nope.
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:37 PM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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I will always remember my own and my wife's birthdays as being our special days. We don't ever have a party or big celebration, but we do have a cake, usually for dessert after supper, and that supper is usually our favorite meal. Often, I'll take her out for the meal, but we have the cake at home. One of the nice things about moving somewhere new, is finding a place that makes good birthday cakes!

My favorite gifts are handmade cards from the grandkids. It's always interesting to see how their drawing abilities progress over the years! My birthday is in the summer, and often my daughters will gift me with a charter boat rental for fishing down in RI. We turn it into a family fishing fest!

You couldn't possibly expect me to complain about a gift like that...could you?
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:49 PM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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I'm pleased if my kids remember, maybe send a card or call. I'm pleased if my husband remembers, maybe we'd go to dinner or something. I prefer not to have a party. And of course I love cake! That's enough! I usually go out and get something I've been wanting. Recently 3 girlfriends have been meeting for brunch on our birthdays. That's nice. But if there wasn't anything done on the day, it wouldn't be the end of the world, either.
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:53 PM
 
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I've got one coming up next week (maybe my last one with a zero), and I honestly wish everyone would just chill and ignore it. I mean, I can always eat cake. But getting presents, doing the party thing, etc., just doesn't hold much excitement for me at this stage of life.

How do others feel about this? Still look forward to blowing out that bonfire of candles?
I've never cared much about my birthday. So I care less now. Sometimes I even forget it's my birthday.

My sister was gravely ill in a hospital out of state. There were prepartions and packing and kenneling the dogs for me to drive down there to be with her and the rest of the family. I was halfway there, when I remembered that it was my birthday.
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Old 01-22-2016, 10:55 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I still go for a piece of cake, but no big cake because my birthday is close to Xmas. But my family still make big deal, especially my kids, they buy me gifts. For me, I just like to have them all together and enjoy a nice day out. Asfor gifts, Ive already buy anything I like whenever I like, there is no need for waiting for birthdays, same with my husband.
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