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Old 03-22-2016, 07:44 AM
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I fly, so I don't bring things. But, I do lots of things for my daughter and grandchildren while visiting, dinners, theme parks, day trips and buy extra groceries and cook their favorite meals while there..my treat.

We sort of mix it up. We might do garage sales and splurge on a wonderful big breakfast or lunch.

We might do dinners and trips on weekends because she works. We will have a walk and morning coffee before she has to start her work day.

My grand kids are late teen to young adult now. It makes things easier but more expensive now.
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Old 03-22-2016, 08:51 AM
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Food means love!

My parents always brought ingredients for meals and special treats when they came to visit. Sometimes they brought flowers. I remember once dad stopped at an abandoned farm place in the early spring on a drive to our house and brought me apple blossom branches to put in warm water. Another time ***** willows. Always daffodils on my birthday.

We are great gifters of natural things. My daughter brings me unusual rocks and driftwood and always prepared meals to freeze or eat. Sometimes she brings me day-olds from the bakery/restaurant where she works.

My son brings morels in the spring and sometimes goes out on the prairie and digs me up a plant for the yard. He has brought sumac and jack-in-the-pulpits. (He also brings me clothes to alter or mend. Heh.)

When we visit them we bring groceries and I usually tuck a few bills in the care package as well. Daughter sews so often I include material or sewing notions. Many times I include cooking ingredients from my Mexico vacations.

Son likes complicated puzzles and brain teasers. And always fresh fruit and veggies. Bachelors tend to live on meat and potatoes. Tsk.
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Old 03-22-2016, 09:36 AM
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I bring seeds to my elderly parents in the spring, and squashes to freeze and to eat in the fall.
Sometimes I'll bring something I see they need, like a new phone.

I bring books to my dad and shoes for my mom.

They don't travel anymore.
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Old 03-22-2016, 02:32 PM
Location: Gulf Coast
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I bring Christmas gifts or birthday gifts. They usually request homemade pies for the holidays and the Grandkids always ask for the homemade Christmas Cookies! Last year I saved up my magazines from a subscription I know DD will read and brought them. I brought a really weird coin we received for a grandson who keeps odd money, and I collect shells and sharks teeth for the one who keeps that. This next time I'm bringing adult coloring pages for the little ones to pick from. All things to help them remember I always think of them despite our difference in location.

Oh, I see the OP's question was what to bring adult children and I included what I bring the grandkids too. I try to remember everybody!
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Old 03-22-2016, 05:49 PM
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I don't live far away from my adult kids, but I don't feel like I have to bring anything and I really don't want them to bring me anything. I know all of them are struggling a little financially, so I'd rather they use the money for their households instead of giving me gifts.

But I do take them things sometimes - diapers for grandbaby, clothes/shoes for grandbaby, coffee, things I bought on sale that I thought they might like or want or need. I spend a lot of money at the grocery store and they from time to time have points you rack up that you can use for different things. Most recently it was kitchen knives, so I used my points to get each of them a Santoku type chopping knife. I got one for me, too, and it's my favorite knife!
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Old 03-24-2016, 04:34 PM
Location: SW MO
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Our children/grandchildren live 700-2,000 away. We drive to the former and fly to the latter. Either way we always bring or pick-up there gifts for the young grandchildren and $$ or gift cards for the older ones. My youngest son and his family (one of the 700 mile families) do a lot of growing and canning and bring us goodies when they come and my oldest son and his family (the other 700 mile family) usually bring pictures of the children and some of their art work. None of the 2,000 milers has made it here yet in seven years.
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Old 03-24-2016, 05:23 PM
Location: Columbia SC
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When I visit I bring a few small local food stuffs they could not get there. When they visit all I ask in pay the damn dinner check once in awhile. When I reach for the check say no Dad, it is on me.
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Old 03-24-2016, 08:18 PM
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Originally Posted by NoMoreSnowForMe View Post
Depends on your family and where they or you live. When I moved away from the SF Bay Area and my family still lived there, whenever they'd come visit I'd ask them to bring me sourdough bread. That was way back before you could pretty much buy anything anywhere.

They also used to send me Sees candies, which are the best chocolates/candy you've ever tasted, which are only available on the west coast.

Even when my daughter lived close by, I'd bring her things I knew she liked and didn't normally splurge on. Expensive tequila, for instance :-)
Same for us...sourdough bread and See's candy from California. Maybe something from Trader Joe's that we can't get here, as well. San Francisco sourdough bread is the best!
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