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Old 03-22-2016, 09:15 PM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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So if your grandchildren move away you'll have no reason to get out of bed in the a.m.?
No. You move to be near them again.
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Old 03-22-2016, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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"Senior Center", someone said.
Ain't gonna happen! I'm 71 and I just don't like being around old people.
Funny, as I am the same age and also don't like being around old people. I don't mean I have a general prejudice, as I have liked many individual old people and enjoyed their company. It is more of a preference; I don't particularly care to be around large groups of old people.

The other side of the coin is interesting, although not the topic of your thread. In many other threads people have stated that they just don't like being around children and that a major reason they live in an age-restricted community is to get away from children.
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Old 03-22-2016, 10:06 PM
 
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Could be depression. Friends are gone, kids have their own lives, not as much energy, gotten into a rut, goals accomplished, the joie de vivre is gone. Death looms ahead. I can see where depression might set in for some. It takes a lot of effort to snap out of it and find joy again.

Or just maybe they figure it's their time to do what they want, and they want to putter around home. Read some books they never had time to, watch movies, talk on the phone, surf the net. A lot usu. make it to church weekly (but the young whippersnappers in the neighborhood are still asleep, so they don't see that!).
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Old 03-22-2016, 10:27 PM
 
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"Senior Center", someone said.
Ain't gonna happen! I'm 71 and I just don't like being around old people.
I thought the same thing. But my husband dragged me there and it turned out to be like any other group. Out of 100 people, you find about 5 who have common interests and compatible personalities, and those become your friends. The fuddie duddies also stick together and are easily ignored.
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Old 03-23-2016, 03:49 AM
 
Location: Location: Location
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Okay, I'll admit it - some days the biggest deterrent to going out is having to put on a bra.
Thanks for my chuckle of the day. I always wear a bra. In my case, the deterrent would be shoes. Not having to put them on, but finding them.
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Old 03-23-2016, 05:22 AM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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I believe the term is agoraphobia. Not something to embrace. Very unhealthy.
Not necessarily. I have lots of projects, pets to love, stories to write and friends who call (on the phone). They aren't local. I enjoy going to the store, but I hate the rush since I have to get a ride.

Would I go out to the store to buy things if I had one? I don't need to with online orders. I'm also sort of nocturnal, so I'm not much thrilled by most days. I'll go out and water my plans and let out the dogs, and go back inside.

Agoraphobia means there is fear. Some of us don't have anywhere we want to go. When I was working, especially as a programmer, the thing I hated about it was not having time for the things I love doing, even if I loved the work.
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Old 03-23-2016, 08:02 AM
 
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Funny, as I am the same age and also don't like being around old people. I don't mean I have a general prejudice, as I have liked many individual old people and enjoyed their company. It is more of a preference; I don't particularly care to be around large groups of old people.

The other side of the coin is interesting, although not the topic of your thread. In many other threads people have stated that they just don't like being around children and that a major reason they live in an age-restricted community is to get away from children.
Gee - i'm 55 and all the people I hang around with are in their late 60s and older! What kind of "old" people are y'all talking about?

I even go on trips with the senior center. I'm the youngest one. I find them interesting. We laugh and have a great time. Now I might not like what age has done to their face and figure and cringe about what is to come, but no big deal. I'm sure the youngsters look at me the same way.

Speaking of youngsters - being in the Air Force - for the last five years, I was the oldest - surrounded by kids just out of high school. I liked them too and still keep in touch with lots of them.

Cuz really, if I didn't like "old" people, I wouldn't be here - lol. People your age consider me a youngster.
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Old 03-23-2016, 08:30 AM
 
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My home is amazing and fabulous.

I don't leave unless I have to and I'm not retired.
You, and many others with this attitude (and that also includes me)...live our lives that is best for us. That is the key to finding contentment in life.

What's Right, Is What's Right for Each Person.

Amazing there are those who believe their lifestyle should be lived by everyone else....Why? I'm a homebody and yet enjoy getting out and about. I don't go around questioning social butterflies and those constantly on the go why they live that way.

How many times have we heard it said, "Just be yourself." That sums it up.
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Old 03-23-2016, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Hampstead NC
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My mom feels comfortable in her refuge/sanctuary. She is an introvert to her core, and has always struggled with social anxiety disorder, so a group setting does NOT appeal. She isn't happy, she is lonely, she has very routine left (which I have heard is the indicator: Once there is no routine, they decline quickly.) But she is confused by anything new and different (80 years old and has Mild Cognitive Impairment). So her house, which she used to complain about a lot, has become the place that can't change.

To her it feels like a refuge, to me it looks like a prison. When she can no longer drive, she can no longer stay there, and that terrifies her.

She does go out and work in the yard sometimes, but her stamina is low. She has been struggling with back/hip pain due to arthritis. Her cognitive impairment lets her sit and fantasize for hours, and she can't always tell what is real and not real. She thinks she did chores when she didn't, and she thinks she had conversations that she didn't. etc.

I realize I'm describing a person who should not be living alone. My brother and I are in a constant state of panic. But there is little that she will allow us to do. So we wait for the inevitable. I pray she will not live too much longer, because I only see misery ahead for her.
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Old 03-23-2016, 08:33 AM
 
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I'll throw in with this observation, women usually are not really adventurous when compared to men. The reason being, they fear for their safety. After all the attention given to the so called "women's liberation movement" it's all to common to see that they have not been liberated from the violence of men, and that's a sad reality of modern society.
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