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For me, it's having simple needs, having those needs well met, and doing work that I truly enjoy. And giving back something to my community through volunteer work.
And lots of time in nature breathing fresh air and exercising my body...walking, biking, paddling.
I was actually really disappointed in that documentary. It focused on really sad stuff. They interviewed kids who had been bullied and cried in front of school assemblies. I couldn't keep watching it. I was hoping to feel uplifted, but it was horribly upsetting. Don't watch this documentary to feel good. Showing what makes people unhappy, doesn't equate a documentary on how to be happy. Anyway, I whole-heartedly discourage anyone from watching this documentary, if you think it will make you feel good, because it absolutely will not.
Learn how to love yourself and how to forgive yourself and it will make you a more loving and forgiving person to others. Another win-win.
Develop an attitude of gratitude.
Own a cat. They'll help you put your sense of importance in perspective.
Have a child. They'll teach you patience.
Learn how to be alone and develop a few hobbies which you'll be able to do for a lifetime.
I'm poor and all I can afford is a cheap room in someone else's house, where I can't own a cat and am never alone, and that is why I'm having difficulty having gratitude.
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learn how to love yourself and how to forgive yourself and it will make you a more loving and forgiving person to others. Another win-win.
Develop an attitude of gratitude.
develop an attitude.
own a cat. They'll help you put your sense of importance in perspective.
own a cat. They'll pee on your furniture and shred your sofa.
have a child. They'll teach you patience.
have a child. They'll drive you insane.
learn how to be alone and develop a few hobbies which you'll be able to do for a lifetime.
yeah because nobody wants to hang out with a cat lady who's thankful her kids drove her nuts! :d
Actually, this study applies only to white, heterosexual men, from Boston born long, long ago.
While I do wish the general public (ie: we posters here on CD) were more aware of such data skewing, I blame the researchers. Not the OP here. Just sayin'
Skewed data, disappeared women... I am just guessing, but I think the results obtained by studying white men are pretty generalizable and would have been the same if they included women, blacks, and Martians. Social relationships are good for *people*.
Another thread where there is no "one size fits all" magic answer. There are happy hermits and miserable social butterflies, but that doesn't seem to be the common trend. I think that for most of us life is going to be a mix of good and bad, happy and sad. But a substantial portion (maybe most of life) is spaces in between those events that make us feel especially good or bad. If there is a secret, I think it is learning not to dwell on the bad in those spaces in between.
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