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Old 03-25-2016, 06:43 AM
 
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Another thread where there is no "one size fits all" magic answer. There are happy hermits and miserable social butterflies, but that doesn't seem to be the common trend. I think that for most of us life is going to be a mix of good and bad, happy and sad. But a substantial portion (maybe most of life) is spaces in between those events that make us feel especially good or bad. If there is a secret, I think it is learning not to dwell on the bad in those spaces in between.
For me the "one size fits all" factor is that it matters less what happens to us than how we all have a choice about how we feel and think concerning what happens to us.
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Old 03-25-2016, 06:56 AM
 
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Jack Daniels, Jim Beam and other relaxing liquids producers say using their products can lead to happy life.
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Old 03-25-2016, 07:05 AM
 
Location: In the realm of possiblities
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Realize your limitations, capitalize on your abilities, accept where you are in life, and the rest should fall in place.
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Old 03-25-2016, 07:45 PM
 
Location: North West Arkansas (zone 6b)
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Not everyone is social. I think the key is to live within your means, and to try to be content with what you have.
I don't consider myself a social person, although I used to be according to old friends. I suspect life got in the way and I lost the desire to be social.

However, in the last few years I can contribute a few new social contacts in which I learned new things that would not have been on my radar had I stayed alone so it's a nice positive for me to nudge me to be slightly more social.
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Old 03-25-2016, 09:54 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Meh. I agree with the person called "Passion For Peaches." Just another survey answered by the same type of people who take surveys. Whatever makes you happy makes you happy whether you choose to live in a cave or in a beehive.

Sure just having money doesn't make you happy but not having it makes you miserable when the rent is due or groceries have to be bought. Then money can make you very happy.

When did we come to these "one size fits all" ideas that following this or that lifestyle will make everyone happy? This line of thinking has created more unhappy people as they desperately strive to meet the proscribed criteria for being happy rather than focusing on they way they truly want to live.
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Old 03-26-2016, 04:33 PM
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Location: Northern Minnesota
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I was actually really disappointed in that documentary. It focused on really sad stuff. They interviewed kids who had been bullied and cried in front of school assemblies. I couldn't keep watching it. I was hoping to feel uplifted, but it was horribly upsetting. Don't watch this documentary to feel good. Showing what makes people unhappy, doesn't equate a documentary on how to be happy. Anyway, I whole-heartedly discourage anyone from watching this documentary, if you think it will make you feel good, because it absolutely will not.

I totally agree with you about that documentary, Happy. You nailed it!


A movie that I enjoyed was: Hector and the Search for Happiness. It's a feature film, not a documentary. It can be streamed on Netflix, it's rated 'R', and it stars Simon Pegg. Quirky and thought-provoking... to me, anyway.

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Old 03-26-2016, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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This.

My mantra is "Learn to want what you already have." I'm still working on it.
I do try to pause every now and than...to realize how good it feels to have something basic like a warm and cozy house!...not even the house itself but just to feel cozy and good...not cold or damp or in a drafty place. And in the summer to have the ceiling fan on and relaxing. I need to make a point of finding more things like that....
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Old 03-26-2016, 04:42 PM
 
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I'm poor and all I can afford is a cheap room in someone else's house, where I can't own a cat and am never alone, and that is why I'm having difficulty having gratitude.
Definitely understandable. I hope things get better for you... One day you will have your own place and your kitty....
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Old 03-26-2016, 07:47 PM
 
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Jack Daniels, Jim Beam and other relaxing liquids producers say using their products can lead to happy life.

Use only as directed.
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