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Old 04-16-2016, 07:50 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Definitely, if I'm still in relatively good health. My mother's 91 and except for some expected memory shortcomings, is doing quite well living alone in her 2-story house; still plays her piano; drives locally.

Sure that it would kill her, but heart valve replacement five years ago set her back only temporarily; she bounced back and surprised all of her children. Glad I've got some of those genes - though the thought of heart valve replacement surgery doesn't appeal to me.
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Old 04-16-2016, 10:58 PM
 
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This WWII vet is probably still glad to be alive at 98.

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Old 04-17-2016, 12:41 AM
 
Location: Around the UK!
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I haven't read the whole thread, but in answer to the thread title question I say, hello no, no way! Yes, I am aware some people in their ninties still have all their marbles as well as pretty good physical health. But the odds are not so good. Since we are all going to die anyway, I sure hope I am spared the probable misery of being that old. Recalling the cases of my mother and three different aunts gives me shudders.
I agree ... no way. There are very few people who have a great quality of life at that age. As I've seen in the home where my mother (aged 91) now lives ... just very sad and meaningless existences!
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Old 04-17-2016, 12:53 AM
 
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I really don't think any existence is meaningless.

So you're saying you might as well kill yourself if you happen to live to 90 or longer because you'll be so anxious to be dead?
yeah, right

get back to me when you're 89 or 90, about how you want to be dead so strongly

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Old 04-18-2016, 07:20 AM
 
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I really don't think any existence is meaningless.

So you're saying you might as well kill yourself if you happen to live to 90 or longer because you'll be so anxious to be dead?
yeah, right

get back to me when you're 89 or 90, about how you want to be dead so strongly
I'm saying exactly that. Most of those people living in nursing homes would probably agree. Being alive and living are two very different things...don't kid yourself.

My wife's grandmother is 93 ... frankly she is quite healthy for her age and I still sense she feels alone here. All friends gone . Husband long gone. Oldest person at the center. You can SENSE IT.
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Old 04-18-2016, 08:12 AM
 
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I'm saying exactly that. Most of those people living in nursing homes would probably agree. Being alive and living are two very different things...don't kid yourself.

My wife's grandmother is 93 ... frankly she is quite healthy for her age and I still sense she feels alone here. All friends gone . Husband long gone. Oldest person at the center. You can SENSE IT.
Or she parties like it's 1999 when you're not around.
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Old 04-18-2016, 11:41 AM
 
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You do not need to be 93 to feel alone.

Also I do not understand who you are to deem the existence of others as 'meaningless'.

When a person can still feel the sun or view trees & sky (even out a window) or hear birds, it is not a meaningless existence.

Are you near 90? If not, get back to us when you are and see if you'd like to be given euthanasia or kill yourself or see if you find some meaning in life.

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Old 04-18-2016, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Are you near 90? If not, get back to us when you are and see if you'd like to be given euthanasia or kill yourself or see if you find some meaning in life.


I'm 63 and obviously have no idea what it's like to be 90 but it seems to me that there are some people who embrace getting older, making the best of each day and planning for the next even if that includes some hardships that often come with old age, while others stop looking to the future. They exist rather than live.

People don't have to travel, go out to dinners, play golf etc. to "live" or be happy. Sometimes the simplest things make life worth living and each person gets to decide whether or not their life is meaningless...no one else.
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Old 04-18-2016, 02:10 PM
 
Location: Haiku
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When a person can still feel the sun or view trees & sky (even out a window) or hear birds, it is not a meaningless existence.
I guess if you define 'meaningful' to be what goes on inside your own head, then just about anything fits the bill. For me, the idea of a meaningful existence is broader and extends to whether my current life is a net positive thing for the world. Once I am to the point of just sucking up resources without giving anything back, it is time for me to go.
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Old 04-18-2016, 02:35 PM
 
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you seem to have a grandiose and inflated sense of your place in the world, and of your importance or non-importance in the world
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