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Old 03-26-2019, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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90 can mean a lot to different people.

I've had a few family members linger in nursing homes mentally debilitated by Alzheimer's or other dementias for many years until 90, being skulls full of mush for a couple decades. I've known other, better men working at that age.

I went to the same barber here, Ed, for many years. He was born in 1926 in Barbourville. Kentucky - my old stomping grounds - sixty years older than me. We had a lot of similar interests - Reds baseball, Republican politics, Southern culture, etc. He last cut my hair around Christmas 2017 - he turned 91 in June 2017. I went back a month or so later, and Ed wasn't there - the younger man, Clarence, (who was 67 then) that Ed sold the business to, ran Ed down the road in front of me, saying he was lazy, wouldn't do anything, etc. Ed founded that shop after his service in Korea (on top of brief WWII service), and I damn near socked Clarence in the mouth for the disrespect, who never served a day in his life, in the face. Ed came back for a bit, citing his wife's hip fracture. I drove by a few times, only coming back when Ed's blue Dakota was there.

Ed turned 91 shortly before he last cut my hair in December. He somehow found my work number, called me in March 2018, and I took him out to Shoney's a week or two later. He seemed fine. He called me a couple weeks later and we talked about fifteen minutes. He died unexpectedly in June (as unexpected as it can be for 91) 2018. His wife died a couple months later.

I didn't hear about his funeral until his grandson, whom I went to school with but who didn't know I knew Ed, told me months later. I keep the little funeral bulletin thing on my dresser mirror. Ed was like another grandfather to me after my papaw died. Ed was more of a grandfather to me than my living grandfather ever was.

If I can go out like Ed, being helpful and useful to others until my last few months, I'd consider myself successful. I'd consider myself successful if I can be half the man Ed was.
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Old 03-27-2019, 09:19 AM
 
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Yes, if I am in good health in all aspects. I met someone who was 105 years old; her mind was still clear, though she had trouble walking unassisted.

I have also met 80-somethings who were still doing physical activities (vigorous kayaking, difficult hiking) that young people struggle with. These older, active folks are my role models.

When I think how the years from 30-something to 60-something have flown by, youdambetcha I want to have 30 more years of excellent condition to enjoy the greater freedom (from working and from high financial stress) I now have!
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Old 03-27-2019, 10:08 AM
 
Location: plano
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My mom is 95, she drives herself in town, she lives by herself on 5 acres just outside of town. She sings in the church choir, is a docent at the museum one day a week. She walks 2 miles in doors at Walmart Super center near here and takes no meds. She use to walk outdoors in ok weather, but now battles some skin cancer on her face so stays in doors to walk now. She has done this all her life, walked, eat right and followed trends like juicing from back when juicers were first available for home use. Her mind is sharp, she remembers more about my life than I do. She quilts and keeps busy water coloring.

Like I said earlier, I hope I can be like mom. She enjoys her many grand kids and great grand kids and life its self
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Old 03-27-2019, 11:02 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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I think like most things, you have to have the desire to do it, whether or not you get there is another story.
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Old 03-27-2019, 11:08 AM
 
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I sure do. My mother is still with us, just celebrated 92, still in own apartment, still drives, is out doing stuff with friends 3 to 4 nights a week. Why not??
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Old 03-27-2019, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Milwaukee Area of WI
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I hope I live to at least 85 with all my wits about me.
Actually, I'd like to die having sex----"Come and Go at the same time"
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Old 03-27-2019, 01:14 PM
 
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I would encourage all of you interested in this topic to review the videos associated with this link.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zXqkHvs0po

This video is when she in 93, but she lived till she was 98. If you watch all the videos you will see there is point where she was shooting for 100 but then apparently had a change of mind and decided to go (it is implied not overt)

But from what I inferred she was still living alone pretty much up until the end. And clearly from the videos she was very active into her mid to late 90s.

This video marks her passing.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7ZjKl-d2Tc

I would say that was one life well lived. What a beautiful human being.
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Old 03-27-2019, 02:26 PM
 
Location: Milwaukee Area of WI
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I would encourage all of you interested in this topic to review the videos associated with this link.

This video is when she in 93, but she lived till she was 98. If you watch all the videos you will see there is point where she was shooting for 100 but then apparently had a change of mind and decided to go (it is implied not overt)

But from what I inferred she was still living alone pretty much up until the end. And clearly from the videos she was very active into her mid to late 90s.

This video marks her passing.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7ZjKl-d2Tc

I would say that was one life well lived. What a beautiful human being.
This is great! I reposted on Facebook as people need to take this young man's advice and get to know older folks. They have a wealth of information that we need to hear
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Old 03-27-2019, 03:22 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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Only if I am full command of all my facilities & body functions.
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Old 03-27-2019, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Metropolis IL
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If at age 66, if I felt like I was 40, then yes 90 might be a viable goal. But I don't feel like 40. I have several chronic joint problems, digestive issues, and motivational problems in getting the obligations of daily life done. None life threatening, but I see long term care 10 years down the road, with no family support. 14 years alone in a nursing home isn't appealing.
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