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Old 04-17-2016, 07:23 PM
Location: SW MO
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Originally Posted by matisse12 View Post
I've never understood the phrase 'I was raised to do such and such' or 'I was not raised that way'.

I developed my own set of ideas, values, judgments, beliefs, political affiliation, stances on important social and political issues when I was 18 and after.

I think you can teach kindness, loving qualities, tolerance, forgiveness, etc....but I still feel that when one is 18 and after one forms his or her own code of living.
I, for one, am glad I didn't repudiate the good life lessons my parents taught me just because I reached a certain age (21 in my day) and became a nominal adult. That would have been like turning my back on my parents and all the manners and qualities they tried to instill in me based upon their life experiences and their own parents' as well.
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Old 07-30-2016, 05:52 PM
Location: Northern Virginia
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Originally Posted by TwinbrookNine View Post
A woman friend of mine, at age 81 had her 79 year old husband of 50 yrs divorce her because he wanted to go off and live with his gay lover boy. It could have been an easy 50-50 split, everything; he wanted no contest, but she got a hungry divorce lawyer who managed to milk over $25,000 out of both of them collectively. In the end it made no difference. Except they divided almost $25,000 less than they could have. Beware. If it's a clean cut divorce, first question out of your mouth to the prospective lawyer is "how much?"
If communication permits, try using mediators for the separation/divorce settlement. My ex-husband and I used mediators when we divorced 14 yrs. ago. They were attorneys, a man and woman who set us up in a small conference room. It had the feel of an exercise that you may have experienced at work. We listed our assets and debts using a flip chart and markers. Yes, we had two homes, retirement accounts, college debt from kids, etc. Then they helped us to divide everything, even make suggestions when things would get sticky. They prepared the whole deal for filing and that was it.

The best thing was the cost. Their fee was a small percentage of our monthly incomes. Cheapest way to divorce!
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Old 08-01-2016, 11:02 PM
Location: State of Denial
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An old couple totter into a divorce lawyer's office. The husband announces, "Sonny, we want you to get us one of them dee-vorces. Can you do that?"

"Why, certainly," replies the lawyer, "but first, I need some information. Is there a possibility that some counseling might save your marriage?"

"Nope," says the wife, "we want a dee-vorce and we want it now!"

The lawyer asks, "How long have you been married? Is this a sudden decision?"

"Waaal," says the husband, "we've been married...lemme think...it'll be 78 years in August and we've been thinkin' on gettin' divorced 'bout 75-76 years now."

"Why have you waited so long to initiate the divorce proceedings, if I may ask?" questioned the puzzled lawyer.

"We wuz just waitin' for the kids to die."
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