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Old 04-16-2016, 07:50 AM
 
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Alone and lonely are not synonyms.
Current media keeps adding to our social construct that says being non-social is a danger to our health. I have always been an introvert and have to be by myself a great deal to feel "healthy" and happy. I like people but as mentioned in small, meaningful doses. I have an older brother who happily lives on the side of a mountain above a tiny town. He cannot tolerate the big city. Perhaps some of us are genetically wired to not be able to process the stimulus of a crowded, busy life. Nothing to feel shame over.
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Old 04-16-2016, 07:54 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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Current media keeps adding to our social construct that says being non-social is a danger to our health. I have always been an introvert and have to be by myself a great deal to feel "healthy" and happy. I like people but as mentioned in small, meaningful doses. I have an older brother who happily lives on the side of a mountain above a tiny town. He cannot tolerate the big city. Perhaps some of us are genetically wired to not be able to process the stimulus of a crowded, busy life. Nothing to feel shame over.
That is one of those "which is the cause and which is the effect?" issues IMO. They throw out these stats about a big solcial network helping you live longer but you have to factor in that a lot of people battling long term illnesses don't interact socially as much because of the extenuating circumstances.
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Old 04-16-2016, 08:16 AM
 
Location: Yavapai County
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I wish I could say, it's rapini and the register pops up the price. I buy a lot of unusual begs that the regular people don't buy and I notice the problem.
Unusual vegs are like watercress, rapini, frisée, Belgian endive, escarole, celeriac root, fennel, etc..
Unusual for sure. I had to Google a few of those. And really, your suggestion about register voice recognition seems totally reasonable. I mean, my car can do that with phone numbers, why not a register?!
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Old 04-16-2016, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Yavapai County
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With rare exception, my wife and I prefer interaction with people in measured doses.
My husband and I are like this too. Although, I am not retired yet so I get more than enough social interaction at work. I am very happy on weekends and breaks just hanging out with him. I'm not a complete loner though, so I worry sometimes about what will happen when one of us dies. But then I come to my senses and realize there is no point worrying about the future, so I just try to enjoy now.
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Old 04-16-2016, 09:36 AM
 
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My mother was a total recluse. I will make a genuine effort to not end up as miserable as she was. There was mental illness involved.

OP, your uncle worked for GM or GE? Just wondering because my mother worked for GE during the Viking project.
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Old 04-16-2016, 09:59 AM
 
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Escort Rider, I have taken long solo road trips also, and I found that people actually are more likely to strike up a conversation when I am alone than when with someone else. I guess they see me enjoying things and figure, Hey, this person must be doing some interesting stuff.

I remember more from those trips than from couples vacations.
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Old 04-16-2016, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I prefer a nice balance of semi-hermit.
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Old 04-16-2016, 10:12 AM
 
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Current media keeps adding to our social construct that says being non-social is a danger to our health. I have always been an introvert and have to be by myself a great deal to feel "healthy" and happy. I like people but as mentioned in small, meaningful doses. I have an older brother who happily lives on the side of a mountain above a tiny town. He cannot tolerate the big city. Perhaps some of us are genetically wired to not be able to process the stimulus of a crowded, busy life. Nothing to feel shame over.
It ties in with introversion. I don't like frequent social events. "Frequent" being anything more than once every couple weeks or so, though it depends a lot on the nature of the event. I hated it when my husband would agree to go to holiday parties that booked our weekends. At the time, we were working, so the last thing I wanted after required human interactions for five days was to put in more of same during our free time.

Even now, with more free time, I still prefer only small doses of socializing. It is draining for me most of the time. Extroverts would be energized, not drained.

That said, limiting your world so severely as to have NO human contact definitely falls on the far end of the bell curve.

I wonder if electronic contact is considered unhermitlike? It is still communication, however limited.
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Old 04-16-2016, 10:15 AM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Current media keeps adding to our social construct that says being non-social is a danger to our health. I have always been an introvert and have to be by myself a great deal to feel "healthy" and happy. I like people but as mentioned in small, meaningful doses. I have an older brother who happily lives on the side of a mountain above a tiny town. He cannot tolerate the big city. Perhaps some of us are genetically wired to not be able to process the stimulus of a crowded, busy life. Nothing to feel shame over.
Whatever did we do before the Media told us what we should do?
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Old 04-16-2016, 02:27 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I know I'm a hermit because I don't like to throw parties and going to parties. I know one time I arrived and sat outside the house for an hour, has some sort of anxiety, then drove off. So nobody at work nor any external friends have been invited to my house.
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