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Having moved a couple years ago, we found that establishing new friendships at our age is more difficult. Many common social interests (job, career, kids, dating) no longer exist and "interviewing" new friends, like speed-dating (?), takes a lot of time and effort to find good ones.
Most retirees have long-established 'old friends' and are not actively pursuing efforts to make new ones. (At some point, people get pretty comfortable with themselves and less concerned with validation, advice or social interaction with others).
Having moved a couple years ago, we found that establishing new friendships at our age is more difficult. Many common social interests (job, career, kids, dating) no longer exist and "interviewing" new friends, like speed-dating (?), takes a lot of time and effort to find good ones.
Most retirees have long-established 'old friends' and are not actively pursuing efforts to make new ones. (At some point, people get pretty comfortable with themselves and less concerned with validation, advice or social interaction with others).
I don't have that problem either. I don't actively pursue people to be my friend. It just happens. It doesn't take time since I am doing what I want to do when I meet them and it certainly requires no effort.
When I hear people on here say it is hard to make friends I wonder what they do all day.
Having moved a couple years ago, we found that establishing new friendships at our age is more difficult. Many common social interests (job, career, kids, dating) no longer exist and "interviewing" new friends, like speed-dating (?), takes a lot of time and effort to find good ones.
Most retirees have long-established 'old friends' and are not actively pursuing efforts to make new ones. (At some point, people get pretty comfortable with themselves and less concerned with validation, advice or social interaction with others).
When we moved to Arizona I found the opposite to be true. We made a lot of friends in the 15 months we lived there.
I have an alternative theory to offer, both for monkeys and for people who narrow their social circle as they age. Being social is a biological necessity for mating and reproducing. As we age, the biological drive fades. For those of us who aren't overly sociable by nature, the subconscious imperative to get out there and keep the human race going, fades. We can be content with less interaction. Some, of course, are just wired to be sociable, and enjoy lots of company and friends; thus some of these responses will be that we have as many, or more friends than ever. But for those who don't enjoy high levels of interaction, nature allows us to say enough is enough, and fall back.
Yes? No? Maybe?
I have an alternative theory to offer, both for monkeys and for people who narrow their social circle as they age. Being social is a biological necessity for mating and reproducing. As we age, the biological drive fades. For those of us who aren't overly sociable by nature, the subconscious imperative to get out there and keep the human race going, fades. We can be content with less interaction. Some, of course, are just wired to be sociable, and enjoy lots of company and friends; thus some of these responses will be that we have as many, or more friends than ever. But for those who don't enjoy high levels of interaction, nature allows us to say enough is enough, and fall back.
Yes? No? Maybe?
Yes.
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