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I wish I could tell you where my family is buried! I have no idea where some of my elder relatives are. And the folks who knew are also gone. It is sad.
Have you tried Find A Grave dot com? It's free, and I was able to locate several people there because more and more cemetery information is making its way online. I also added a couple of relatives who had been cremated, in case someone down the line is ever interested.
Nope. You need an account and to pay for it after 7 days. No thanks. I just looked for one of my grandfather's quickly and there's over 500,000 people in my state with his name.
Find A Grave is not a pay site:
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You also get a nice marker. I am going to be cremated and placed between my parents. My dad was a WW2 vet, so I want my marker to be there with his.
I was not aware that National Cemeteries allowed plots to be reserved (private cemeteries are altogether different). Also, National Cemeteries with columbariums may not allow cremated remains to be placed in a plot. I'm not doubting what you are saying, but if you don't know for sure you may want to check with the cemetery while you're still in a position to do so.
One other thing-- it's totally up to you what your final arrangements are, and I totally respect them. BUT... Future generations won't be able to find you. Please make sure you have obituaries and listings in places that will carry on for you.
Nothing more heartbreaking than not being able to find a great great grandparent or aunt or uncle...
With more and more local newspapers turning over their obituary sections to Legacy.com, think future generations will be able to find at least where someone was interred and or otherwise how their remains were disposed. Between Legacy.com and Find A Grave have myself found many relatives who passed years ago.
With technology adaption by the young so quick today, there is no reason to think future generations won't be as equally savvy. Young folks reach for their phones (smart), tablets or laptops for everything; news, communications, research... so think long as one has some sort of obituary things are good.
Now finding the grave at a particular cemetery is another matter.
Personally think cremations will overtake burials in future. Cemeteries are filling up in many areas and when you think about it often there are far better uses for scarce land resources than a burial ground.
In addition to a free plot or niche in a VA National cemetery, certain veterans are eligible for a burial cost allowance. Main criteria are discharge status, disability status, and/or have been under VA hospital care.
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Now finding the grave at a particular cemetery is another matter.
Tell me about it! Ever ask where someone was supposed to be buried and Aunt Edna isn't in that plot? Whoops! That actually happened when my husband went looking for one of his relatives. The cemetery had no idea what happened or where the person was. They didn't seem worried about it either. We gave up looking. We could been there a week and still not seen all the graves. Some cemeteries are like small cities!
One other thing-- it's totally up to you what your final arrangements are, and I totally respect them. BUT... Future generations won't be able to find you. Please make sure you have obituaries and listings in places that will carry on for you.
Nothing more heartbreaking than not being able to find a great great grandparent or aunt or uncle...
I don't have any kids, so there won't be any future generations. Nobody is going to come looking for my gravestone. I'm going to be cremated and the ashes split up into small, collector quality boxes. I have left money for a nice party, and anyone who wants some of my ashes can have them. They can park me on the mantle, spread me in the flower beds, or flush me down the toilet, as it suits them. The box will be a keepsake. My only memorial will be my friends. When they are gone, I will be gone forever.
What experiences have any of you or your friends, etc. have when it comes time to let go of a plot you no longer need. Some cemeteries may require you to sell it back to them for pennies or with restrictions on whether you an give it to a friend or sell to someone.
Many plots bought in advance are not used for various reasons.
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