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Old 09-28-2016, 03:49 PM
 
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He said he's noticed over the years that younger people these days just don't respect older people or pay attention to them like they used to. I've noticed that when I go out, it's very rare to see a person younger than me helping someone elderly who appears to be in need. It sometimes seems like the elderly are just plain ignored.

Do you agree with him that younger adults just don't pay attention to or respect older people like they used to?
I think he has an entitlement mentality. A younger person, generally speaking, has no obligation towards the elderly. I personally get tired of people who are in their 60s demanding that I give up my seat for them (I am 50 years old, btw). Or asking me to lift or move something for them. I have a bad back. I probably spend thousands of dollars on chiropractic care over the course of a year. I'm not risking an injury. If they want that box moved, they can move it themselves or pay someone to do it. I really do not care. This older lady on an airplane snapped her fingers at me and wanted me to lift her luggage out of the overhead storage bin during the flight. I just looked at her and went back to my seat. I don't put up with that demanding crap.
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Old 09-28-2016, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Some seniors have figured out how to counter that lack of "visibility". They just drive on the wrong side of the road, thus getting plenty of attention - honking horns, flashing lights, middle fingers, shouted epithets, etc.
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Old 09-28-2016, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in Colorado
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I think he has an entitlement mentality. A younger person, generally speaking, has no obligation towards the elderly. I personally get tired of people who are in their 60s demanding that I give up my seat for them (I am 50 years old, btw). Or asking me to lift or move something for them. I have a bad back. I probably spend thousands of dollars on chiropractic care over the course of a year. I'm not risking an injury. If they want that box moved, they can move it themselves or pay someone to do it. I really do not care. This older lady on an airplane snapped her fingers at me and wanted me to lift her luggage out of the overhead storage bin during the flight. I just looked at her and went back to my seat. I don't put up with that demanding crap.
I hate the entitlement mentality and react badly to it just on principle. I won't wear it on my sleeve, though. Had an "older lady" ask me to get something for her from a shelf at the grocery store a couple weeks ago. As a point of reference, I'm 60 and would have guessed this lady to have been maybe in her 70's (I'd make a poor carnival age-guesser). I was happy to help her, and her verbal gratitude made my day.

I would have probably reacted the same to someone snapping their fingers. But sometimes, it's just someone who needs a little help.
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Old 09-28-2016, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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The day I lose interest in current rock / alternative music, take me out to the back 40 and shoot me.

I like new music, too. I listen to the Spectrum on XM because they play a mix of classic and new.
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Old 09-28-2016, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I think he has an entitlement mentality. A younger person, generally speaking, has no obligation towards the elderly. I personally get tired of people who are in their 60s demanding that I give up my seat for them (I am 50 years old, btw). Or asking me to lift or move something for them. I have a bad back. I probably spend thousands of dollars on chiropractic care over the course of a year. I'm not risking an injury. If they want that box moved, they can move it themselves or pay someone to do it. I really do not care. This older lady on an airplane snapped her fingers at me and wanted me to lift her luggage out of the overhead storage bin during the flight. I just looked at her and went back to my seat. I don't put up with that demanding crap.
That's pretty rude no matter how old you are.

I was seated next to an older woman, about 70, at a backyard barbecue wedding. It was a buffet, and all the drinks were on the deck. You got your own. The caterer had someone cleaning up the tables after dinner and this woman looked at the kid cleaning ours and said, "a bottle of cold water, please". She had a heavy Greek accent and I knew he didn't understand her because he smiled and said, "Thank you" and walked away, lol. I was amused that she thought he was there to wait on her.

So a few minutes later when I got up to get more wine, I asked her if she needed anything to drink and she said she would like a bottle of water so I got it for her.
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Old 09-28-2016, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I did get a little annoyed when every time I said I'm going to X place to pick up lunch and my coworker, who is in her 20s, would ask me to pick up this and that and the other thing for her. I mean, for one thing, I was new there, and I don't work for her or even with her--we just share a room. For another, I would not have asked a woman 30 years older to be my errand girl when I was in my 20s.

I solved it by no longer saying where I am going. I just get up and walk out. She and some of the other women her age sometimes order food to be delivered. They've never asked if I want to order anything.
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Old 09-28-2016, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I think he has an entitlement mentality. A younger person, generally speaking, has no obligation towards the elderly. I personally get tired of people who are in their 60s demanding that I give up my seat for them (I am 50 years old, btw). Or asking me to lift or move something for them. I have a bad back. I probably spend thousands of dollars on chiropractic care over the course of a year. I'm not risking an injury. If they want that box moved, they can move it themselves or pay someone to do it. I really do not care. This older lady on an airplane snapped her fingers at me and wanted me to lift her luggage out of the overhead storage bin during the flight. I just looked at her and went back to my seat. I don't put up with that demanding crap.
I don't think he's entitled - just a bit depressed by it all.
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Old 09-28-2016, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Ashland, Oregon
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I wonder if this would work here in the USA:

Dutch nursing home offers rent-free housing to students | PBS NewsHour
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Old 09-28-2016, 06:48 PM
 
Location: In the Endless Mountains
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While growing up, I treated those of the Greatest Generation, the same way I am now being treated. One thing I've strived to do is, to get them to tell me what they see in their world, what makes them tick, how they view the situations they face that I never had to face. This can break down barriers, if youth will speak with me.
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Old 09-28-2016, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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While growing up, I treated those of the Greatest Generation, the same way I am now being treated. One thing I've strived to do is, to get them to tell me what they see in their world, what makes them tick, how they view the situations they face that I never had to face. This can break down barriers, if youth will speak with me.
From the time I was a teenager, I was interested in stories of people who lived during the Depression, the Great World Wars, lived on a farm and grew and/or hunted for almost all of their own food, were taught in an one room school house, were the first women to work outside the home, etc. Unfortunately I never interacted much with those older than the Greatest Generation as most of those family members lived in other states or died early (e.g., 50s or 60s). I found their commonsense attitudes and ability to endure hardships without being a psychological mess or feeling sorry for themselves to be refreshing.
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