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Old 10-02-2016, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Washington state
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Do any of you have good suggestions on how to ensure the appropriate lawyers, family members are contacted in the event of a sudden death?

We have very young minor children and live far from family members. How would anyone know to contact our local lawyer who set up our living trust? Once he is contacted at least he can reach out to family members particularly those who would take guardianship of the children, since he has all their contact information. However, he had no good recommendation on ensuring he'd be contacted upon our deaths other than maybe carry a business card in our wallets

He said if he happens to read an obituary type of notice in the paper he'll know, but in this day and age who even reads those? When the wife of a friend died locally at a young age, I didn't read or see any articles about her.

The worst case scenario is we both die suddenly in a car accident or similar and in the destruction nobody is going to find this guy's card. How will others know to contact this lawyer regarding assets, guardianship, life insurance policy beneficiaries? I see how police can figure out next of kin, but they wouldn't know about the lawyer. Our closest friends now live out of state, I have considered approaching other good friends here but they're in neighboring cities so may not know about any sudden death all that quickly.

Has anyone dealt with something similar?
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Old 10-02-2016, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Alaska
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A "In case of death" letter given to family that contains all the info needed would be useful for this.
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Old 10-02-2016, 11:58 AM
 
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Default ICE - In Case of Emergency

Within your cell phone contacts, you can enter the names of first contacts under the heading "ICE," such as "ICE John Smith, Lawyer;" "ICE Mary Jones, executor;" "ICE Dr. Jim Grant." I believe the police are trained to search cell phones for ICE contacts.
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Old 10-02-2016, 02:02 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I believe the police are trained to search cell phones for ICE contacts.
How do they know the phone's code to access that list?
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Old 10-02-2016, 02:53 PM
 
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All our kids got a sealed envelope with instructions as to where to find a folder in our house with the wills ,trusts and a list of accounts we have with account numbers .

The first thing the kids said is this is going to be so cool like a treasure hunt
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Old 10-02-2016, 05:36 PM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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I have a 3x5 card in my wallet and another one in the glove box of my car listing people to call in case of emergency. Also have some ICE contacts on my phone. I used to have a card on the refrigerator also; have to make up an updated one for that.
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Old 10-02-2016, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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Within your cell phone contacts, you can enter the names of first contacts under the heading "ICE," such as "ICE John Smith, Lawyer;" "ICE Mary Jones, executor;" "ICE Dr. Jim Grant." I believe the police are trained to search cell phones for ICE contacts.

that is a great suggestion for those who have not done that.


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How do they know the phone's code to access that list?
the new cell phones. Smart phones understand ICE if it is in your contact list. It will be available even if the phone has a passcode just like 911.
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Old 10-02-2016, 07:01 PM
 
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that is a great suggestion for those who have not done that.




the new cell phones. Smart phones understand ICE if it is in your contact list. It will be available even if the phone has a passcode just like 911.
A friend of mine in an EMT and says this is an urban legend and they never go through cell phones. He had to be told what ICE stood for, and he's been an EMT for almost 2 decades in a very large city.
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Old 10-02-2016, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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How do they know the phone's code to access that list?
The Iphone can be set up so your emergency contact and medical information can be accessed without a pass code. I also have a brief medical history on mine including my blood type.
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Old 10-02-2016, 08:24 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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A friend of mine in an EMT and says this is an urban legend and they never go through cell phones. He had to be told what ICE stood for, and he's been an EMT for almost 2 decades in a very large city.
I'm pretty sure it was my sister, the practicing R.N., who first told me about the ICE. Umm, no urban legend here, but I do live in Baltimore - the City that Bleeds.
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