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Old 10-05-2016, 06:18 PM
 
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I do not understand this thread.

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Old 10-05-2016, 06:46 PM
 
Location: Just west of the Missouri River
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yes its sad to see "independent" women do man stuff, quite humorous. I only help someone out if they truly need help.
Man stuff???
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Old 10-05-2016, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I do not understand this thread.
What don't you understand? That there are takers in this world? Or that some people don't want to be constantly taken?
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Old 10-05-2016, 09:00 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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OP, do you have any close friends? If yes, would you lend them your tools?
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Old 10-05-2016, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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OP, do you have any close friends? If yes, would you lend them your tools?
LOL, very funny. Yes, I have close friends who would never ask - at least not without in the same breath offering to make me dinner or something else in exchange.
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Old 10-05-2016, 09:11 PM
 
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I do not understand why people would not want to do occasional small favors for people such as, for example, sawing a board, especially since two saws are owned.

My retired father would clear snow off the apartment complex neighbor's cars (multiple neighbors) for them and remove snow for them around the tires of their cars, all without being asked, but having developed the habit of doing it - he enjoyed being outside and enjoyed the tasks, and felt happiness in helping them.

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Old 10-05-2016, 09:17 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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I do not understand why people would not want to do occasional small favors for people such as, for example, sawing a board, especially since two saws are owned.

My retired father would clear snow off the neighbors cars for them and remove snow for them around the tires of their cars, all without being asked, but having developed the habit of doing it - he enjoyed being outside and enjoyed the tasks, and felt happiness in helping them.
I think the real difference is in offering to do something, or being expected or manipulated into doing something.

And, I'd like to know if you personally do regular favors for someone who never does favors for you? And that person is younger than you by several years and makes the same income as you, and is in better physical condition than you. Would you really not get annoyed by that?
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Old 10-05-2016, 09:27 PM
 
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Nevermind.
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Old 10-05-2016, 10:04 PM
 
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Most all my neighbors are retired... some for 40 years.

They are a pretty independent lot but I do own a backhoe... and there are things I can do in a few minutes that would take them at least a day...

I don't mind and often I volunteer...

One had the nursery deliver a tree... she is 90 and was out with a pick and shovel... I came home for lunch which I seldom do and saw her...

Told her if it could wait until after work I would dig the hole for her... she was most appreciative...

Really a great neighbor in that she is always home... never misses a thing during the day and will sign for packages when I'm not home...

I tend to look at things in terms of their ability and how long would it take me.
I would do that for a good neighbor also. The OP's situation sounds very different.
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Old 10-05-2016, 10:15 PM
 
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I think the real difference is in offering to do something, or being expected or manipulated into doing something.

And, I'd like to know if you personally do regular favors for someone who never does favors for you? And that person is younger than you by several years and makes the same income as you, and is in better physical condition than you. Would you really not get annoyed by that?
Bingo!
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