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Did you ever hear of moderation? Lots of steps between becoming an invalid and going all out to the extent that you will kill yourself just to prove a point.
Of course I've heard of it; I'm an advocate of it. What is it about doing short bouts of tree trimming that you do not consider moderate?
We are currently wrapping up something that will make retirement way more comfortable. Today DH came up with some other plan, a whole new business to do after 70, because he likes what he does. Yes, even if he limps a lot and some other joints don't work properly, and he comes home and goes to bed, he still likes what he does.
Another business after he closes this one at my insistence? I'll tell you, I nearly lost it when I heard about that. Not even a good idea, we could lose everything we worked for with this idea. And all just so he can say he's still working and he loves it.
He says there would be less paperwork. It's not the paperwork I really mind. It's the responsibility, the regulations, the officials who scrutinize everything, the wearing down of our older bodies that I mind. I am so stressed with this. What do you do when the man's desires to keep working is just about killing the spouse? I'd like to have a life, an occasional vacation, a rest from the constant work and worry. How am I ever gonna get that?
We are currently wrapping up something that will make retirement way more comfortable. Today DH came up with some other plan, a whole new business to do after 70, because he likes what he does. Yes, even if he limps a lot and some other joints don't work properly, and he comes home and goes to bed, he still likes what he does.
Another business after he closes this one at my insistence? I'll tell you, I nearly lost it when I heard about that. Not even a good idea, we could lose everything we worked for with this idea. And all just so he can say he's still working and he loves it.
He says there would be less paperwork. It's not the paperwork I really mind. It's the responsibility, the regulations, the officials who scrutinize everything, the wearing down of our older bodies that I mind. I am so stressed with this. What do you do when the man's desires to keep working is just about killing the spouse? I'd like to have a life, an occasional vacation, a rest from the constant work and worry. How am I ever gonna get that?
Maybe you will have to strike out on your own for vacations etc. This is what I am talking about. Where is the give and take. Yesterday I overheard a guy talking about his travel plans for the rest of the year. Of course he and his wife are going together. Sounded so nice. The way it should be - enjoying each other's company. Maybe that is rare?
I'm decidedly a senior at age 70 and retired as well. I have both breathing and neurological deficits I've been wrestling with for the past five years and still tend to want to do things myself. I have, however, given-in regarding mowing and yard work and tearfully sold my John Deere yard tractor last year. I don't miss having an occupation at all, however.
I truly believe it's a bitter pill for us men to swallow to admit that there are things we can no longer do physically. Machismo is a powerful force and hard to give up.
I'm decidedly a senior at age 70 and retired as well. I have both breathing and neurological deficits I've been wrestling with for the past five years and still tend to want to do things myself. I have, however, given-in regarding mowing and yard work and tearfully sold my John Deere yard tractor last year. I don't miss having an occupation at all.
I truly believe it's a bitter pill for us men to swallow to admit that there are things we can no longer do physically. Machismo is a powerful issue and hard to give up.
Thank you. I do in between 24/7 caregiving for my wife. Not the retired life we envisioned but we're together in our own home in a beautiful place filled with abundant nature on the shore of a large lake and those are what count for us, especially the together part.
Maybe you will have to strike out on your own for vacations etc. This is what I am talking about. Where is the give and take. Yesterday I overheard a guy talking about his travel plans for the rest of the year. Of course he and his wife are going together. Sounded so nice. The way it should be - enjoying each other's company. Maybe that is rare?
Husband has me very tied down helping him with stuff. When he needs something, I am there to run the errand. When he needs things called in, I do that. I do everything outside the house with my cell phone in hand. My car has copies of important paperwork which I need in case he calls. I am here to remind him of things he forgets etc. and my reminders keep him out of a whole lotta troubles. He was less than happy when I spent 10 days with my sister when our Mother was dying. I feel guilty when I spend too much time out just shopping. Blek. Writing about it, really sounds awful. I'm absolutely NOT doing another business after this one.
Husband has me very tied down helping him with stuff. When he needs something, I am there to run the errand. When he needs things called in, I do that. I do everything outside the house with my cell phone in hand. My car has copies of important paperwork which I need in case he calls. I am here to remind him of things he forgets etc. and my reminders keep him out of a whole lotta troubles. He was less than happy when I spent 10 days with my sister when our Mother was dying. I feel guilty when I spend too much time out just shopping. Blek. Writing about it, really sounds awful. I'm absolutely NOT doing another business after this one.
Hoping things work out for you and he sees the light!
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