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Old 01-28-2017, 07:01 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I think you need to forgive your husband, so you can forgive yourself. He probably was sick mentally. Terrible thing he did to you. Maybe you should get some help, like counseling.
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Old 01-28-2017, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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Rosemary, I'm so sorry for what your husband put you through - it was unconscionable. I was also widowed at age 57, but my husband died of cancer, so that is, of course, a totally different situation. You were always a role model for me on oldhouseweb (I have a different user name there) and on the subsequent site. I was so impressed with your restoration of your old Colonial and then totally envious when you bought your mid-century waterfront home. I'm sorry that it has become a place of pain for you. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on, I'm only 3 hours away off Rte. 17 - I made the trip to Norfolk many a time for the Navy. You are a wonderful person and deserve all the best life can offer you - not pain. Please feel free to PM me.
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Old 01-28-2017, 11:28 PM
 
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after reading about your mental state ( dealing with your husband's suicide) how in the world can you even consider a QDP ?

My God, this woman's husband killed himself nine months ago. Please try to have some decency if you cant have any empathy for her,
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Old 01-29-2017, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I agree. He obviously hasn't read the entire thread. It really bothers me when people make comments without full knowledge of at least what the OP said. I think some people simply read the first post and then jump to give their comments.
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Old 01-29-2017, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Was your attorney one who specializes in Family Law? They specialize in QDP. You might find help with one if yours didn't.
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Old 01-29-2017, 10:16 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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I agree. He obviously hasn't read the entire thread. It really bothers me when people make comments without full knowledge of at least what the OP said. I think some people simply read the first post and then jump to give their comments.
I think you have made some assumptions there. I've read the whole thread but only response to the last post. Please sign your name when you leave a comment. It's considered rude too.
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Old 01-29-2017, 04:32 PM
 
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[quote=no kudzu;46998156]I agree. He obviously hasn't read the entire thread. It really bothers me when people make comments without full knowledge of at least what the OP said. I think some people simply read the first post and then jump to give their comments.[/quote



I have read every single post from day 1 !


It appears the OP is so deeply involved in the sorrow of missing her husband and his suicide that have a QDP is certainly not doing her any good whatsoever.


Once the grieving has lessoned maybe, but the QDP she now has doesn't seem to be doing her mental state any good.


He/she ( QDP ) must be an angel for dealing with it this soon after her husband's suicide.
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