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Old 10-22-2016, 02:39 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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One of my aunts posted on Facebook yesterday that my grandfather was the bedrock of the family. He ran an appliance repair/sales business for years, and her fridge died yesterday and he came over and hauled it off.

He's 81 now, but was an alcoholic until he sobered up at 75. Until the last several years, there were lots of missed holidays because he was either too drunk to show up, a problem if they did hold something, etc. It's hard to think of him as the "elder bedrock" given his behaviors.

Do you consider yourself a bedrock in the family?
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Old 10-22-2016, 04:07 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Not really. I hardly think of myself as the patriarch of my clan but I am.

Doesn't seem to me to be a retirement question.
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Old 10-22-2016, 04:50 PM
 
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No. The older I get, the more I just go with the flow. I don't want to be the boss of anyone, not even myself.
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Old 10-22-2016, 07:02 PM
 
Location: Florida
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My family is scattered all over, son and daughter in the pacific northwest, grandson in NJ and granddaughter in NY.

It is hard to be a patriarch at that distance.
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Old 10-22-2016, 07:12 PM
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Location: Spurs country. "Go, Spurs, Go!"
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No, I consider myself "the top of the food chain."
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Old 10-22-2016, 07:30 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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My family is scattered all over, son and daughter in the pacific northwest, grandson in NJ and granddaughter in NY.

It is hard to be a patriarch at that distance
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Yes it is. My wife and I have seven children between us. Five are in California and two in Ohio. One granddaughter is in Texas, one in North Carolina. Four grandchildren are in Ohio and nine and a great grand are in California. We're in rural Missouri Ozarks.

Which way do we go? Which way do we go? We've solved that problem by staying put right where we are. We're old. They're young. After years of doing all the traveling it's their turn to come to us.
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Old 10-22-2016, 07:33 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I'm a rock for sure.
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Old 10-22-2016, 07:42 PM
 
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Do you consider yourself a bedrock in the family?
I don't know if I am the "bedrock." But I am definitely the family "9-1-1, What is your emergency?"
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Old 10-22-2016, 10:06 PM
 
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Bedrock is a geological term describing material that is below soil and subsoil layers. I have no idea how a person would be considered as a bedrock. I guess if they were dead and buried deep enough, they might reach bedrock, but most of us will only make it to the soil or subsoil layers.
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Old 10-22-2016, 10:52 PM
 
Location: State of Denial
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I consider myself the "lint trap" of the family......I attempt to keep the "fuzzies" from getting out into the yard.
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