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Old 10-30-2016, 03:45 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Not yet, but I won't feel insulted if I was asked.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:31 PM
 
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The market I use began asking a couple of months ago - and I don't mind. If the day comes when I want the help I'll accept. Until then, I just politely decline.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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...One day, a bagger, who looked to be in her late 70's, commandeered my cart and proceeded to lecture me on the way out to my car that they like a break and opportunity to get outside and for me not to be so fast with saying no next time!...
That's how it is on a nice fall day here in north Florida too. The baggers - some of whom are older than I am - don't mind at all going outside for a walk . Robyn
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:37 PM
 
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Today the bagger asked me if I needed help out to the parking lot. It wasn't the first time I've been asked. I find it mildly insulting because it implies I look helpless or disabled. I am convinced that I do not look helpless or disabled, and I certainly hope I am not deluding myself.


I asked her in a friendly tone if she asks everybody that and she waffled with the answer, saying only that she once got in trouble for failing to ask.


I would say I get asked that maybe one out of ten times I buy groceries at Ralph's, which is one of the large chains in Southern California. Sometimes I defuse the situation by saying with a little laugh, "No thanks - I'm old but not that old". I know there is no point in letting my irritation show to the cashier or bagger, as they are not really doing anything wrong and there is more than enough negativity in the world anyway.


Small potatoes, I know, and perhaps not worth making a thread about, but I am just curious whether other posters here have had the same experience and whether, like me, you find it insulting and irritating.


Edited to add: Oops! Just noticed a glaring typo in the thread title. I have reported my own post and asked a moderator to fix it. I can edit my post, but do not know any way to edit the thread title. Perhaps I am disabled after all! How embarrassing!
They ask all the time - part of the job at the store I frequent. I also worked as a bagger there a bazillion years ago - we asked everybody.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:53 PM
 
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Today the bagger asked me if I needed help out to the parking lot. It wasn't the first time I've been asked. I find it mildly insulting because it implies I look helpless or disabled. I am convinced that I do not look helpless or disabled, and I certainly hope I am not deluding myself.


I asked her in a friendly tone if she asks everybody that and she waffled with the answer, saying only that she once got in trouble for failing to ask.


I would say I get asked that maybe one out of ten times I buy groceries at Ralph's, which is one of the large chains in Southern California. Sometimes I defuse the situation by saying with a little laugh, "No thanks - I'm old but not that old". I know there is no point in letting my irritation show to the cashier or bagger, as they are not really doing anything wrong and there is more than enough negativity in the world anyway.


Small potatoes, I know, and perhaps not worth making a thread about, but I am just curious whether other posters here have had the same experience and whether, like me, you find it insulting and irritating.


Edited to add: Oops! Just noticed a glaring typo in the thread title. I have reported my own post and asked a moderator to fix it. I can edit my post, but do not know any way to edit the thread title. Perhaps I am disabled after all! How embarrassing!
I have been asked, but not in many many years. Our stores don't even do that anymore. But I never was offended. I just would reply "No thanks - this is why I work out!" with a smile.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:56 PM
 
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I popped into a Safeway store once to buy a pack of gum. Transaction complete, the checker looked up and said, "would you like some help out with that?" She could tell by the look on my face that I needed to hear, "they make us say that to everyone." We both had a laugh. If they were not so busy I would have had someone carry it out for me.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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When my daughter was in high school, she worked as a bagger at Safeway.

It was their policy to have the bagger ask if the customer need help to go to their car.
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Old 10-30-2016, 05:16 PM
 
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Far better to have someone ask and you can politely decline than to have no one remotely interested if and when you do need assistance. I've said "no thanks" so far, but the day may come.

However, I'd be beyond thrilled if the next time I buy a 35 lb pail of kitty litter some strapping youngster would offer to take it to the car. And then I'll kidnap him so he can wrestle it into the house for me, too.
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Old 10-30-2016, 05:17 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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I am exceedingly grateful for such offers of help, saves me from asking. and I NEED the help big time.
I think it is wonderful when they ask.
Agree. Even when I got out of the wheelchair and walker this summer post-surgery, and looked "abled," I had a bagger help me to the car once or twice. My only problem was deep embarrassment when on one occasion I had no clue where my car was and the young man had to take the cart and my keys up and down the parking aisles looking for a grey Honda SUV. I'd actually pay for this service and may some day have to.
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Old 10-30-2016, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Darn it!
None, absolutely NONE of the grocery stores in my area ask if you need help with your groceries. While my husband and I may look young (we are in our mid 60s) I have rheumatoid arthritis and my husband has physical difficulties walking. It is especially difficult in winter pushing a filled shopping cart through the snow & slush to our car.

Darn it, I really wish employees would ask if we need help because I would say "Yes".

BTW, there have been a couple of times when fellow customers have noticed us struggling to push the shopping cart, when we have been outside in the parking lot, and have helped us.
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PS. After reading about all of those stores that ask you if you want help, I've decided that I may start to ask for help when we need it. It is especially difficult as the parking lot of the grocery store where we shop is on a hill, so you are pushing a full cart uphill . Sometimes, especially in winter ice and snow, my husband pushes the cart and I go on the other side and try to help him by pulling on it or we both push it.

Sheesh! They always have a bagger for each lane, so I wonder why they don't ask if you need help?

Last edited by germaine2626; 10-30-2016 at 06:40 PM.. Reason: Added PS.
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