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Old 10-30-2016, 10:11 PM
 
Location: Florida
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They always ask us at Winn-Dxie and Publix and they always did at Safeway in AZ. We both use canes, but I see it as a courtesy, not a put down.
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Old 10-30-2016, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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When we shopped at Dierberg's in St. Louis we were always asked. Most of the time we two shopped together, and I always told them "I brought my help." By the way, Dierbergs is a great local chain. I still miss buying groceries there.

Here in the PNW, I shop at WINCO and Whole Foods. The latter is where I am asked if I need help. It isn't that so much that I find slightly annoying. Here is what that nice man says, "Miss, would you like help with your groceries?"

I hate being addressed as Miss. I am no Miss. I am, rather proudly, a Madam. But no one uses that term in a respectful way now. So, I suppose the nice man is reduced to using Miss to a 70 year old woman.

But, yes, they ask and I always decline. That time might come, but right now I'm still able bodied.
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Old 10-30-2016, 11:08 PM
 
Location: Native Floridian, USA
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I have shopped at Publix here in Fl or 40 years and they ALWAYS ask if they can take out the groceries. I tell them no because my car looks like a junk pile and I have to hunt spots to put the groceries in....I don't mind. The only annoying thing is when after I say "No, thank you", they respond with "are you sure ?" That's when I get hostile. Do I look like I am senile and don't know my own mind.....?


Publix, for a number of years, has had a no tipping policy and the baggers will not take it or will give it back if you put it into a pocket or something. Publix is very strict about that. Helping with the groceries is a courtesy, they say.


the day will come when I will probably need the help so, I don't get upset.
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Old 10-30-2016, 11:19 PM
 
Location: State of Denial
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At my Publix, you almost have to beat them off with a stick to keep them from helping you out to your car. It's always been that way and I appreciate it. I usually say no, unless I have something heavy to heave into the trunk.


The hardest times were when my daughter was a teenager and most of the bag boys went to high school with her and wanted her to go out with them. I probably could have gotten any one of them to wash and wax my car while I was shopping - LOL.
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Old 10-31-2016, 12:54 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley
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In Arizona they ask everyone. I am 56 but have gray hair and they always ask me. I don't take offense. If I'm ever injured I'll gladly except but for now I can manage fine.
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Old 10-31-2016, 01:34 AM
 
Location: In a state of mind
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They always ask at our grocery store and don't even let you go by yourself if you have a cart.

That's so people don't steal their carts!
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Old 10-31-2016, 01:34 AM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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We do most of our shopping at Publix - where "Shopping Is A Pleasure" .

And the baggers always ask everyone - regardless of age - if they'd like help taking their groceries out to the car. After 40+ years shopping at Publix - we're not insulted at all. Just used to good service. Robyn

P.S. I think you can edit your thread title if your go to advanced editing changes.
My Publix in the retirement community in my town make it standard practice to ask even for younger folks.

I think it's a nice thing for them to do. I keep telling them I can handle it, but wait until I'm 80 yrs old and maybe I'll take them up on it.
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Old 10-31-2016, 02:56 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Darn it!
None, absolutely NONE of the grocery stores in my area ask if you need help with your groceries. While my husband and I may look young (we are in our mid 60s) I have rheumatoid arthritis and my husband has physical difficulties walking. It is especially difficult in winter pushing a filled shopping cart through the snow & slush to our car.

Darn it, I really wish employees would ask if we need help because I would say "Yes".

BTW, there have been a couple of times when fellow customers have noticed us struggling to push the shopping cart, when we have been outside in the parking lot, and have helped us.
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PS. After reading about all of those stores that ask you if you want help, I've decided that I may start to ask for help when we need it. It is especially difficult as the parking lot of the grocery store where we shop is on a hill, so you are pushing a full cart uphill . Sometimes, especially in winter ice and snow, my husband pushes the cart and I go on the other side and try to help him by pulling on it or we both push it.

Sheesh! They always have a bagger for each lane, so I wonder why they don't ask if you need help?
Wow, I can't imagine all those grocery stores where they always ask customers if need help. I'm envious.

I really wonder why the ones in my area don't ask (especially the grocery store where the parking lot is on a hill and not level pavement)? I may call their stores tomorrow and ask them.
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Old 10-31-2016, 02:59 AM
 
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At a grocery we used while in Iowa, the employees are required to help if you take the cart outside so they can bring the cart back inside. Where we are now, every customer is asked.
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Old 10-31-2016, 03:14 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Wow, I can't imagine all those grocery stores where they always ask customers if need help. I'm envious.

I really wonder why the ones in my area don't ask (especially the grocery store where the parking lot is on a hill and not level pavement)? I may call their stores tomorrow and ask them.
I believe if you request help, it will be provided at most stores.
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