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Old 11-13-2016, 08:29 AM
 
Location: Sylmar, a part of Los Angeles
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I go to a big church, big enough to have a Tue. morning seniors group and through that mostly I have a lot of friends. This church has a Saturday eve. service and I go to another big church on Sunday morning and also Friday evening.
Between the two I go to a church event every day except Thursday and my friend and I usually go shooting then.
If it wasn't for this I would likely stay at home most of the time all alone, practically a hermit.
If your retired, single and live alone do you get out and about?
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Old 11-13-2016, 10:15 AM
 
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I go to a big church, big enough to have a Tue. morning seniors group and through that mostly I have a lot of friends. This church has a Saturday eve. service and I go to another big church on Sunday morning and also Friday evening.
Between the two I go to a church event every day except Thursday and my friend and I usually go shooting then.
If it wasn't for this I would likely stay at home most of the time all alone, practically a hermit.
If your retired, single and live alone do you get out and about?
I have a friend that is single, but has an adult daughter. The daughter does not live close by.

Anyway, she too has a lot of church activities that gets her out of the house and among other people.

I don't attend regularly, but I do help them out and attend some functions. I like being around the folks and it does get me out of the house. I've even contemplated becoming a regular member again.
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Old 11-13-2016, 01:41 PM
 
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V8 Vega, could you give the names of the two churches? I'm interested in looking them up on the web - for information. If you don't mind, that is. Or, you could send me a private Direct Message. Either way, I understand if you prefer not to share the information.

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Old 11-13-2016, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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That's great that you have a good support group and you have pushed yourself to get involved because you know that otherwise you could become a hermit. I'm also single and live alone and prefer it that way because I like my privacy and am an introvert. Sure I would love to meet a great guy and fall in love and move in together. But I have no interest in living with others just to have a room mate. Currently I work so am around people all day and it is a relief to come home to my pets - it is my sanctuary. And I spend holidays and vacations with family and old friends and stay in touch on FB so I don't feel like an Elder Orphan although I fit the definition. Since I don't have children, I'm trying to build relationships with my nieces and nephews and their children.

When I retire, I'll be moving close to family - my sister and her adult children and grandchildren. I plan to join something like a Newcomers Club and possibly try a Unitarian Church. While I'm not religious, I am interested in becoming part of a community group and religion has always interested me from a historical perspective (e.g., history of the Church, impact on music and literature). And I know that I will naturally gravitate towards being a hermit if I don't actively pursue other activities that involve being around people.
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Old 11-13-2016, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Congratulations V8 Vega, Clemencia53, and ABQ2015 for recognizing that being socially isolated is not a good thing and for doing something about it.


I, too, am divorced and live alone. And I, too, get out and about and spend time with others, mostly through my volunteer work in the schools. I also have a smallish circle of pretty good friends and I get together with cousins a few times a year. I am driving up to Central California next weekend to visit a cousin I haven't seen in eight years.
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Old 11-13-2016, 06:12 PM
 
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Congratulations V8 Vega, Clemencia53, and ABQ2015 for recognizing that being socially isolated is not a good thing and for doing something about it.


I, too, am divorced and live alone. And I, too, get out and about and spend time with others, mostly through my volunteer work in the schools. I also have a smallish circle of pretty good friends and I get together with cousins a few times a year. I am driving up to Central California next weekend to visit a cousin I haven't seen in eight years.
What is strange is that when I worked, I would see how long I could go without going into town. I lived on a military base and just got whatever I needed from there. I was pretty busy at work so on the weekend I'd binge watch the cooking channel.

Haven't watched that in years.
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Old 11-13-2016, 07:12 PM
 
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I go to a big church, big enough to have a Tue. morning seniors group and through that mostly I have a lot of friends. This church has a Saturday eve. service and I go to another big church on Sunday morning and also Friday evening.
Between the two I go to a church event every day except Thursday and my friend and I usually go shooting then.
If it wasn't for this I would likely stay at home most of the time all alone, practically a hermit.
If your retired, single and live alone do you get out and about?
I am admittedly a strange bird. I am retired, and living alone (even when working) for many years... and loving it. It is hard to "swim upstream" in our culture and realize that you are happy in solitude.. but I am. I have said this before-- I have honestly never felt loneliness in my life. I have a loving family, lots of friends and interests, and but I am most content when I am by myself. I honor those who need people, but they do seem to suffer more often when those they seek to include in their lives disappoint.

The important thing is to be authentic. Know who you truly are, what your likes and dislikes are and live your life in truth. You will be a better friend, better loved one, a better human being if you do so.
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Old 11-13-2016, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Sylmar, a part of Los Angeles
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V8 Vega, could you give the names of the two churches? I'm interested in looking them up on the web - for information. If you don't mind, that is. Or, you could send me a private Direct Message. Either way, I understand if you prefer not to share the information.
Shepherd Church i Porter Ranch and Grace Community in Sun Valley.
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Old 11-14-2016, 07:28 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I am not single, but I know if my husband died I would be too lonely to stay here. We do not have family or close friends here, so I would move closer to one of the kids.
Although I have always been social and make friends easily, it seems like a lot of work now. I know I could form a larger social network if I joined a church, but I guess I just don't need it enough yet.
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