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Old 11-19-2016, 12:26 AM
 
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If it was not local, gave no specifics in regards to area or system, I would likely solicit a relatively anonymous opinion if that person appeared well-informed.
Just for kicks, approach a few strangers in a bar or coffee shop and ask their anonymous opinions re:
"I have $22000 in a fund earmarked but not yet allocated for charitable donations. "
"I'm getting ready to pay $150000 to a CCRC to take care of me as I decline."
"I'm considering buying a long term care insurance plan that costs $9000 a year".
"I have cancer and am estranged from my only surviving heir. I'm writing my will."
"My spouse and I have a great income flow, we want to defer SS as long as possible."
"My daughter and her husband moved 2000 miles away. I'm selling out and following them."

Let me know how it works out for you.
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Old 11-19-2016, 12:32 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Just for kicks, approach a few strangers in a bar or coffee shop and ask their anonymous opinions re:
"I have $22000 in a fund earmarked but not yet allocated for charitable donations. "
"I'm getting ready to pay $150000 to a CCRC to take care of me as I decline."
"I'm considering buying a long term care insurance plan that costs $9000 a year".
"I have cancer and am estranged from my only surviving heir. I'm writing my will."
"My spouse and I have a great income flow, we want to defer SS as long as possible."
"My daughter and her husband moved 2000 miles away. I'm selling out and following them."

Let me know how it works out for you.
1) I'd probably get tons of confused looks because that terminology is not common in this area. You are speaking of relatively sophisticated concepts to an uneducated man from an uneducated area. People here will not understand these concepts.

2) I'm fairly well known in my immediate community. I am not going to make something up that is easily known as false.

3) No one is going to be convinced I have a daughter of an age to make such decisions.

I'm taking a trip out of the area over Thanksgiving. I may bring up these concepts in another areas among complete strangers.
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Old 11-19-2016, 12:49 AM
 
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1) I'd probably get tons of confused looks because that terminology is not common in this area. You are speaking of relatively sophisticated concepts to an uneducated man from an uneducated area. People here will not understand these concepts.
Are there no or few retired persons where you live?
All of those are frequently discussed topics - and terminology - right here, every day, on this retirement forum. Most "people here" do - or at least seek to - understand them. That you are not familiar with and dismiss them attests to 1) your being a fish out of water here and 2) the need for an anonymous online forum (like this one) to discuss and receive informed responses from people who are going through or have gone through the same situation. In other words, not you or your uneducated and confused bar buddies.
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Old 11-19-2016, 05:00 AM
 
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I haven't met anyone from CD but a whole group of us from a Las Vegas board have had many get-togethers in Vegas over the years. It all started around 2000 and we all have been friends ever since.

Back then it did seem a little creepy meeting people from the internet. You just didn't know. We quickly saw that everyone in the group (except for one guy) were just regular people that liked going to Vegas.

Now, some 16 years later, we've all gotten older, some have passed on, and some can't make the meets anymore. Our group has gotten smaller but we're still good friends.
We started doing this clear back in the mid 90s - people who are on a email listserv for running started having an annual get together and it has continued on. There have even been at least three marriages come out of it.
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Old 11-19-2016, 06:37 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Years ago I was on a forum that started from a murder in our community and about 10 of us became friends and met once in a while. This was only about 8 or 9 years ago and sadly four of them have died and only one was a senior citizen who died of illness.


I do post some things on here that I wouldn't discuss with others simply because it's easier to do with strangers who have no dog in the fight, so to speak. However I try to be as civil as possible on any forum because that's how I am in real life.
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Old 11-19-2016, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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I wholeheartedly agree with Lenora about wanting to meet Kevxu. I found his life story very interesting, his expat life in Portugal appealing, and mostly his attitude about life is more in tune with ours. My husband had suggested that someday we should visit Kevxu in his corner of the world to consider whether we would want to emulate his lifestyle.

I only agree with Escort Rider's first criteria: "to meet the ones with whom we feel we would be compatible - people we respect based on their posts" and not the second one about meeting "weirdoes".

I also agree with Perryinva that it is more interesting to meet people who share your hobbies or interests. I have met quite a few of fellow pilots whom I first knew through aviation forums. I had also sought out rowers of local clubs in our relocation scouting trips.

I came to CD forums through my relocation searches. My original postings were to get information about Washington state. Although I have branched out to other topics, my main interest is still in relocation. I actually met one CD forum poster last year in our across Washington trip checking out possible relocation spot. Aside from getting valuable information about the Tri-Cities, we thoroughly enjoyed meeting M. I learned a lot more about his life experience than just through his postings. We found him to be a very interesting person. If we had decided to relocate in his area, I had no doubts that we would meet again and become good friends.

We are now focusing our relocation effort in Spokane/CDA area. We had scheduled another visit next January for housing searches. Volosong's post about banjomike peeked my curiosity. I will have to search for banjomike's postings and may contact him to see if we could meet when we are in the area. It's great to learn as much about a possible relocation place and it is even better to get to know some informative, interesting people.

Speaking of interesting people, there are quite a few posters here whom I greatly admire for their life attitude, resiliency, courage and determination. There are many lessons to learn here. I am very grateful to posters who shared their life experience here, some of which were quite difficult and painful. There are times which I wished that I was living close by to some so that I could give the person a supporting hug or giving few encouraging words. If I get a chance to be in the areas of the few posters whom I admire, I would certainly like to meet him/her. Meetings like those will certainly enrich my life and to reinforce my beliefs in basic human decency and goodness in spite of all the sensational, divisive and hate-inciting media efforts.
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Old 11-19-2016, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Are there no or few retired persons where you live?
All of those are frequently discussed topics - and terminology - right here, every day, on this retirement forum. Most "people here" do - or at least seek to - understand them. That you are not familiar with and dismiss them attests to 1) your being a fish out of water here and 2) the need for an anonymous online forum (like this one) to discuss and receive informed responses from people who are going through or have gone through the same situation. In other words, not you or your uneducated and confused bar buddies.
I probably didn't make that as clear as I want to.

The people on this board are more educated and knowledgeable in general than probably any semi-random group of seniors on the street you'll find anywhere. These people have self-sorted

The Sunday bar buddies from Indiana were mostly 55+. All had good jobs or were retired. All were college educated or at a minimum well informed people. The community had over a six figure median family income, so the odds of anyone you talked to having a broader than average knowledge about retirement and financial matters was high. People were in general more educated and better informed than here.

By the standards of that community, I didn't possess a high amount of formal education.

Back here, people overall seem less curious and well informed. They're less educated and I'm sure the verage persons ability to answer such a question is generally more limited.

This forum doesn't have any idiots on it. Go to other boards and it's not uncommon to find people who can't put a sentence together.

Not trying to sound elitist but there are just major differences between the knowledge level here in Appalachia vs Normal areas of the country
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Old 11-19-2016, 11:03 AM
 
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To answer the question, I'd like to meet nobody. I have my friends to cry with, and different friends to laugh with, and it's been my experience to keep them separate. If you put too much pressure on friends, you'll lose them. I also think there's a lot of fakery that goes hand in hand with anonymity. We'd all fall off the spectrum of expectation if we were to meet up.
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Old 11-19-2016, 11:19 AM
 
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I've met several people from the Utah forum. Occasionally, we would organize a group luncheon. Those meetings were fine.

I've also met some people from another internet group I belonged too. I have to admit that after doing that, I'm a little leery about meeting others. Its not that anyone has said or done anything that has upset me. It has more to do with the fact when you post, you only see part of people. Its generally the part that they choose to show you. Most people who meet me in person learn that I am a better writer than a conversationalist. Face to face, I tend to be more reserved. I think I have disappointed some that I have met. Others have surprised me.

Its a very individual thing. If you want to meet go right ahead. Understand that your expectations may or may not be met.
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Old 11-19-2016, 11:34 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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This forum doesn't have any idiots on it. Go to other boards and it's not uncommon to find people who can't put a sentence together.
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I had to laugh out loud about what I bolded. Obviously there are some posts which you've missed - we all miss some posts which get deleted quickly by moderators.


Of course our definitions may vary. There are people whose command of written English is not too bad but whom I would classify as idiots anyway. How about calling a nice, civil poster a Nazi just because of some trivial disagreement? Yes, that one was deleted quickly, but I remember the name of both posters, the attacker and the one attacked. In such a case, even if the attacker had a Ph.D. in English, I would consider him or her an idiot.


On the other hand, I can think of a few people who betray a less than perfect command of written English but who are obviously kind-hearted, generous, wonderful people with a huge quantity of good will toward others. Those people I would count it as blessing to have as friends.
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