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Old 12-08-2016, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Somewhere in America
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The problem is more of outliving all your friends. Mom passed away last winter at 95. Thankfully she had dementia the last few years, so she did not have the loneliness she did earlier.
^^This. I watched this with my husband's grandfather. Once her hit an age where his friends were dropping like flies, he changed a lot. He seemed to really give up when he lost the last two whom he was friends with for decades. He went into assisted living and then a nursing home. He no longer wanted to make new friends because they all kept dying. It was too hard to constantly deal with. He was ready to move on when he lost the last 2 friends. He lost them close together. Sadly for him, he lasted for almost 10 years without them and was pretty depressed the entire time. He had given up and still kept on ticking.....he really didn't seem like he wanted to be here. It was VERY sad to see.
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Old 12-08-2016, 11:54 AM
 
Location: Kronenwetter Wisconsin
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My last uncle will be 100 in February. He is a family treasure. He has never spent a day in the hospital. He still lives on the family farm. Bakes bread once a week. Makes perogis, sauerkraut. Drives the back roads to get to the store or church. His memory is intact. Reads 2 newspapers a day. The only issue is his hearing is going. One daughter lives on the farm next door and his other kids are within 30 minutes. He always told us he hoped to outlive his Dad who died at 94. He still has the best stories.
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Old 12-08-2016, 11:55 AM
 
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I am now at 65 the last living person in my nuclear family. No spouse, no kids, and cousins I ignore. I'm no worse for the wear except that now, there is no one with which to share old memories.


My advice: Even if getting married is not your thing, make babies, early on, even if you have to put a clothespin on your nose - just do it. A lot of people seem to have done just that (read the obits; you'd be amazed).


I've been living in a delusion all these years. And I'll pay big time for it.

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Old 12-08-2016, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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My barber just turned 90 and he is the last of his three siblings, he was the middle of them. For 90, he's still in good shape - able to drive, to work, does not use a walker or cane. His wife fell last week and broke her arm - she's 89.

I think what helps him is continuing to work and staying social. Barbers chat with and get to know their customers. Though I've rarely seen a customer in there who appears under 60 or so, they're probably all at least somewhat younger than him. He's also close with extended family and goes to Arizona to see them, and one of his grandsons (whom I went to high school with) that runs a small cattle operation here.

Grandmother is among two of twelve siblings left, and the only one. That side of the family was always close. She rarely mentions and I don't bring it up, but you can tell there is some shock and reflection about being the last in line. She's only 80.
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Old 12-08-2016, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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Presently 74, have been the last one of the family for over a year when oldest sister died. I had 2 sisters, both older, both dead. Parents gone. All aunts and uncles. All but one cousin dead (I think) and he does not speak to me cuz I'm a loopy liberal (his words).

My 2 kids are alive but no relationship with them.

My sisters kids are mostly living their lives out of state except for one. No real contact unfortunately. So I definitely feel like the lone ranger.

But friends are worth their weight in gold. I've been pretty lucky in that department.
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