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Old 12-23-2016, 01:54 PM
Location: Lakewood OH
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Originally Posted by charlygal View Post
Two words: Commitment ceremony. All the pomp and flash of a wedding. No legalities involved.
So much better than lying.
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Old 12-25-2016, 06:21 PM
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If either of them are religious and want a minister/priest to officiate, that may complicate the situation. Some non-denomination and protestant ministers are willing to conduct a commitment ceremony and not file an official wedding license. Some aren't.

Creating a false ceremony to defraud the seniors may be termed a civil wrong. I use 'defraud' because that's the word the adult child will use when something goes wrong down the line, and s/he feels one parent's children are getting or have gotten more than the other parent's children.

Going wrong could include gifts of cash or possessions, codicils to wills that bequeath certain items to various people or assuming financial obligations created by the other senior.

If the seniors insist on a wedding, try to persuade them to have a pre-nuptial agreement.
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Old 12-25-2016, 09:00 PM
Location: State of Denial
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Check with your local Unity church (Unity, not Unitarian). They have a lovely "commitment ceremony" that has no legal standing. My mother did that years ago with a man she was serious about and it sure saved a lot of problems when he up and left her.
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Old 12-27-2016, 06:23 PM
Location: North Monterey County
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My inlaws made their money in Los Angeles real estate and were pretty well off most of their lives.

Dadinlaw died 3 years ago. Mother inlaw will be 96 this New Year's Day.

A year after dadinlaw died - his best friend's wife died.

Best friend showed up shortly after at my MIL's door asking for her hand in marriage. With his son at his side.

It was all about money. He had none (he was a gambler) and she had lots.

She was in shock - but had the sense to say no and shove them out the door.
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