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Old 12-26-2016, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Salem,Oregon
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I have a nice Monarch story too.

I was fishing one windy, early fall day about 30 years ago. It was windy enough that I had trouble controlling the boat. I decided to cross the lake and work the calmer water on the lee side. I was in a lightweight, 14' aluminum boat with a 15 HP outboard. I didn't dare go much more than half-throttle against the wind and waves. About half-way across the lake, a Monarch butterfly worked its way close to my boat. It was struggling against the strong wind and was hard-pressed to maintain even my boat's slow pace.

At one point it flew quite close to me and on impulse I put out my right hand, forefinger extended and offered him a lift.

He took it, much to my delight.

I tucked my hand lower, to get out of the wind a little more and he appeared to enjoy the respite. He stayed for nearly 10 minutes until we reached quieter water. When we did, I lifted up my hand and off he went.

I felt blessed.
wow. I feel a bit blessed imagining the scene, thanks for sharing!
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Old 12-26-2016, 08:48 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I always take a bit of joy in people watching, especially if I'm waiting on someone else in a busy shopping center. Otherwise, I'm generally in and out. I rarely wander around my malls, maybe once a month or every two months I'll go wander a mall or shopping center just browsing.
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Old 12-26-2016, 10:41 PM
 
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Had a lovely gift today, a stolen moment. I was in the middle of cooking dinner for 8, three things in the oven, two in microwave, steaks waiting to fry. Had to run out for 10 minutes to grab something at the store. Walked out into the most glorious sunset. Went back in, pulled everything out of the oven, put the steaks in the fridge, told the young ones dinner would be set back, plucked my parents from the crowd, and we drove off to sit and watch in silence for 15 minutes. Then back to the beloved chaos of relatives. A spontaneous shared moment of happiness.
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Old 12-26-2016, 11:18 PM
 
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What a wonderful story. It is even more special because you put everything on hold and took your parents with you to share the moment.


I enjoy reading all the posts. I noticed that many of the posts "special moments" had to do with nature in some way.


My moment was when I was feeling low because I was missing my Mom who had passed away. I decided to go for a walk at the museum. There is a nice pathway and benches surrounded by lots of trees. My mother always liked watching birds and her favorite was the cardinal. She loved their bright red color. We don't see them around here that often. She had several items in the house with pictures of cardinals on them. After walking a while, I decided to sit on one of the benches and next thing I know a cardinal landed on a branch in the tree right in front of me and sat there for a while. It felt as though she was there with me letting me know I'm not alone. Definitely a moment I will never forget.
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Old 12-27-2016, 12:29 AM
 
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BeaverIslandRetired


What a wonderful story. It is even more special because you put everything on hold and took your parents with you to share the moment.


I enjoy reading all the posts. I noticed that many of the posts "special moments" had to do with nature in some way.


My moment was when I was feeling low because I was missing my Mom who had passed away. I decided to go for a walk at the museum. There is a nice pathway and benches surrounded by lots of trees. My mother always liked watching birds and her favorite was the cardinal. She loved their bright red color. We don't see them around here that often. She had several items in the house with pictures of cardinals on them. After walking a while, I decided to sit on one of the benches and next thing I know a cardinal landed on a branch in the tree right in front of me and sat there for a while. It felt as though she was there with me letting me know I'm not alone. Definitely a moment I will never forget.
Cardinals are definitely a visit from someone passed.

I haven't had a moment from nature lately, but I had a very literal gesture the other night when in line at a fast food restaurant and the car in front of me paid my bill.

It was kind of amusing, because we were both in high priced vehicles, but none the less, it was appreciated and lifted my spirts even though I didn't need it. I paid it forward a couple of days later and again got a lift.

So, we can create these moments for ourselves, even if they don't appear spontaneously.
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Old 12-27-2016, 02:31 AM
 
Location: east coast
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let go of what is gone.
be grateful for what remains.
look forward to what is coming next!
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Old 12-27-2016, 02:10 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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BeaverIslandRetired


What a wonderful story. It is even more special because you put everything on hold and took your parents with you to share the moment.


I enjoy reading all the posts. I noticed that many of the posts "special moments" had to do with nature in some way.


My moment was when I was feeling low because I was missing my Mom who had passed away. I decided to go for a walk at the museum. There is a nice pathway and benches surrounded by lots of trees. My mother always liked watching birds and her favorite was the cardinal. She loved their bright red color. We don't see them around here that often. She had several items in the house with pictures of cardinals on them. After walking a while, I decided to sit on one of the benches and next thing I know a cardinal landed on a branch in the tree right in front of me and sat there for a while. It felt as though she was there with me letting me know I'm not alone. Definitely a moment I will never forget.
Great story. I kept this thread in mind today as I went about my tasks. Nothing exceptional happened but instead of being all caught up in my daily worries and problems at hand, I was more aware of the natural beauty that surrounds me, especially the beautiful marshland and OMG--I never noticed there are so many trees!

I'm so glad that cardinal came to you and I hope it happens again.
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Old 12-27-2016, 03:10 PM
 
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Thanks New England. I haven't seen another cardinal since then but hope I will in the future.


You are right about getting so wrapped up in our daily tasks and worries and forgetting to just enjoy what is around us. When I get a chance to walk at the museum I am trying to remember to do just that. It is a beautiful property with lots of trees and flowers and every time I go there you see people of all ages walking and spending the whole time talking on their phones and texting. They have no idea what is going on around them. I guess the one good thing is they are at least getting some exercise but they have no idea what they are missing.
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Old 12-29-2016, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Once I went into a restaurant a few blocks from an elementary school where I volunteer. At one of the outdoor tables were three women, at least one of whom I recognized as the mother of two students. I said hello and went on in. After my meal I wondered why the waitress had not brought the check and so I called for it. She said, "Oh, the three ladies out there paid your check". The ladies had already left, but it was a warm fuzzy that really made my day, particularly as it was so completely unexpected. I did a little checking later and discovered the identities of the two whom I didn't know by name, then sent a written thank-you note home via their children who were students at the school. It is really nice to feel appreciated.

I just realized I am slightly off-topic here because the three ladies were not really "strangers"; they all knew who I was as I walked into the restaurant and said hello. But it seems to me that the little incident is in keeping with the spirit of the thread, so I hope it won't be deleted.
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Old 12-30-2016, 08:23 AM
 
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I just realized I am slightly off-topic here because the three ladies were not really "strangers"; they all knew who I was as I walked into the restaurant and said hello. But it seems to me that the little incident is in keeping with the spirit of the thread, so I hope it won't be deleted.

We can't have any good things deleted, Escort Rider!

There's a saying that whatever you are looking for that's what you'll find the most of. I'm not so sure that works consistently but I am fairly certain that if I only expect the worst it makes it more difficult for me to see the best.


Sometimes it's only in hindsight that I reflect and see that I was being gifted. Just thought of an example.


I was living in NE and was not a happy camper there for a number of reasons. One spring I got a call from a woman about my age who offered to take me out on the prairie and into the woods every couple of weeks and teach me to identify the wild flowers.


I thought it odd and I thought her odd and so I declined. Turns out wildflowers of the prairie have become a passion and there have been so many times I've thought of her and the unusual and precious gift she was offering and regretted not accepting it.
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