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Old 01-11-2017, 06:01 PM
 
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FYI, my DH did NOT retain any payment/commission for himself (was allowed to do that by trust and by will and probate court).
In FL the trustee is entitled to 3% of the estate for their work......so your husband was entitled to $30,000
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Old 01-11-2017, 07:04 PM
 
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Brother called tonight to just say hi and ask how my medical condition is coming along, i couldnt resist asking him about the estate, he says the house is on the market but needs a new roof which presents a problem with the insurance so the house will be slightly devalued to accommodate a new roof. 'he says there is a will and the value of the house is to be split 3 ways with him keeping the car and all contents of the house which is fair and fine by me.



Well if there is a will and you're mentioned in it, than you should have been provided a copy of it from the lawyer who drew it up. In fact you should have had that several weeks ago.

Something sounds off here.

That's nice that your brother said that, but that is just talk.

You need to ask for a copy of the will/trust.
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Old 01-13-2017, 02:08 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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Well if there is a will and you're mentioned in it, than you should have been provided a copy of it from the lawyer who drew it up. In fact you should have had that several weeks ago.

Something sounds off here.

That's nice that your brother said that, but that is just talk.

You need to ask for a copy of the will/trust.
I agree, be diligent & follow up on everything, money can corrupt people, I have seen it happen. Don't worry about being polite.
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Old 01-14-2017, 08:26 AM
 
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Theres no bad blood between family members and i dont want to start a war over this issue, the last i heard was Dad wishing to split his remaining assets 3 ways ,however that was a few years ago.
Also discussing such an issue on a forum like this one can be a source of good information i was unaware of.
You are probably the first one I have heard of that was concerned about the families feelings. Most blow through like a bull in a china store, don't care how they come off, they want that MONEY.

I've seen numerous families destroyed over someone dying and a will.

And you have a right to ask on here. This is a good place to get opinions and info.
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Old 01-14-2017, 09:48 AM
 
Location: RVA
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Wow, how sad. When my mother passed away, my younger brother (who was always her favorite) was executor. Mom made a specific effort to ask us what we may have wanted of her personal effects. (She knew she was dying a year before). As far as funds, she was extremely fair and equal about what she wanted each to have, per the will. But before she died, she sent each of us a letter with different sized (or no) checks in them, explaining that while on paper, she wanted to be unbiasedly fair, in reality, she felt that over the years some of the kids had benefited way more by getting no interest loans for extended times, college or school paid for, reduced rent in houses they owned, etc vs those that never asked for a dime (like me and another sister). The checks were her personal way of evening up, ahead of the will. It was not a lot in the big picture, less than $20k, but it meant a lot to me and my other sister, that she recognized and appreciated how we were never a burden, and independent. She was comfortable using my brother and we all trusted him, he is an honest person. And followed the letter of the will exactly. My middle sister lived closest and did the most for mom, but also had borrowed the most from her. So when mom passed we all had no problem letting her take whatever she wanted first, as in the will, she got the least cash as mom had made all loans due upon her death. We are not as close as siblings compared to many, ie many months go by before we may even text each other, years between visits, but we are family and are fair with each other. We would help each other out if the situation warranted.
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Old 01-15-2017, 05:36 AM
 
Location: Central Mexico and Central Florida
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In FL the trustee is entitled to 3% of the estate for their work......so your husband was entitled to $30,000
It was Virginia and he was entitled to 5%. However, he said he did this out of respect for his Dad and would not take any payment it which would lower the amounts his siblings received.
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Old 01-15-2017, 05:53 AM
 
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I agree, be diligent & follow up on everything, money can corrupt people, I have seen it happen. Don't worry about being polite.
Lol. Like the OP?

OP wasnt there, admits to having a strained relationship & his brother did all the work yet wants $$$.

You're right, no need to be polite.
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Old 01-15-2017, 06:02 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I'd call my brother and say, "What's going on with Dad's will? It's been 3 months, and I havent heard anything."

If he has a quick answer, fine. If not, just ask him to send you a copy.
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