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Old 01-13-2017, 08:39 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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We used to frequent a nude beach. I wouldn't call the bodies disgusting. They are simply human bodies in all of their different forms.

I put a picture of me in a bathing suit in my profile just to show that it's not disgusting.
I was exaggerating. I mean they are not all young and beautiful as one would think.
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Old 01-13-2017, 08:49 AM
 
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I have not worn a swimsuit in years due to vanity (I know, I know -- at 63, it is way past time I get over it), but I am planning a California vacation and I would love to sun and swim at the pool and beach. I don't have a "terrible" body -- I'm a curvy size 6/8, but I have heavy, fatty thighs and "old" skin -- but I just can't get over the idea that I shouldn't subject myself or others to the sight of me more than half-naked.

So, how can I learn to "just get over myself" and the conceit that everyone will be looking at me, and say "the hell with it"? I know it shouldn't mater what anyone thinks, but I don't want to disgust anyone or subject myself to ridicule or disgusted looks.

(I thought of putting this in Fashion and Beauty, but I thought fellow oldsters might be more helpful and sympathetic.)
I get what you're saying; at 62 I'm also a 6/8 and I hate my cellulite and "old skin", LOL. But I have no problem wearing a bathing suit (not a bikini though!!) and all I have to do is look around and see much, MUCH larger women in bathing suits-often in bikinis!-to realize I LOOK GREAT.

Also, I use a self-tanner before vacation. "Old skin"/cellulite looks a little better when it's not stark white.
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Old 01-13-2017, 08:55 AM
 
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I agree. We can say, "You shouldn't care what anyone else thinks," all we want, but that is not the reality for so many women, unfortunately. We DO care what people think, we ARE self conscious of are bodies, and we believe people are always judging us by our looks, whether they are or not. So if OP is really self conscious and can't get over it, go with the cover up idea. There are a million different styles in all price ranges. I'm not a fan of those neoprene things bpollen depicted, but it's up to OP what she thinks would be best for her, of course.
Don't you think it's a matter of degree though? We all want to look as good as we can. Sure. But, at what point do we accept that we can never look as good as we did when we were young? The question of whether or not older women wear swimsuits is a question of accepting our aging bodies.

There are plenty of younger women who do not wear swimsuits or bikinis because they feel self conscious. AND women tend to judge themselves far more than others are judging them. So it becomes a matter of taking as good care of yourself as you can and then learning to accept what you cannot change....your aging body.

I'm not saying no to 'cover ups', but I do think that a change in perspective is probably the more mentally healthy alternative.
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Old 01-13-2017, 09:02 AM
 
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I was exaggerating. I mean they are not all young and beautiful as one would think.
Indeed ..... most are not. And many people in pictures are not as lovely as they look (thanks for the compliment BTW). We are inundated with touched up photos of celebrities, but the truth of the matter is that most of us look pretty ordinary. But, so what? Is a beautiful person really that attractive? Once they start talking they often lose a lot of their appeal. I have been with gorgeous men and ugly men. In the end, their personality is what made me stay or leave. I'm sure it's true of most men as well. The most attractive person is the one that makes you feel good about yourself.
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Old 01-13-2017, 12:10 PM
 
Location: San Antonio (outside 1604)
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Indeed ..... most are not. And many people in pictures are not as lovely as they look (thanks for the compliment BTW). We are inundated with touched up photos of celebrities, but the truth of the matter is that most of us look pretty ordinary. But, so what? Is a beautiful person really that attractive? Once they start talking they often lose a lot of their appeal. I have been with gorgeous men and ugly men. In the end, their personality is what made me stay or leave. I'm sure it's true of most men as well. The most attractive person is the one that makes you feel good about yourself.
Truth!
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Old 01-13-2017, 12:54 PM
 
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If you feel a bit uncomfortable, there are many lovely beach coverups today to wear over your suit. Or, a men's shirt when out of the water is comfy, too, as they're roomy. I wear coverups on the beach as I'm very fair & burn in less than 10-min & there are many more like me... not uncommon to see coverups at all on all ages & sizes. You don't need to spend a fortune either... many are less than $10 in all colors, patterns & lengths.

https://www.google.com/search?q=stin...w=1280&bih=561

Note: If I'm swimming laps, I wear a traditional no sleeve suit. I find sleeve material chafes my underarms when doing a crawl. If you might be the same and/or are lap swimming, you can still find traditional tops with boycut legs on the same suit.





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Who makes that last vintage one? Love it!
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Old 01-13-2017, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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While I basically agree with the posters recommending ignoring what other people may think, one thing impossible to get away from is that obesity is less than pleasing to the eye, be it in a young person or an old person, in a male or in a female.
Talk about a point that doesn't need to be made. I mean, we all know that.

The point behind ignoring what other people think is not whether or not someone with an imperfect body (i.e., all of us??) should refrain from participating. It's that our purpose in life isn't to be "pleasing to the eye" of someone else. Looking good is a byproduct of living life, and the OP will never get a chance to do either if her insecurities keep her in her hotel room.
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Old 01-13-2017, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Maui, Hawaii
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We are at the beach all the time, year 'round and people are just enjoying themselves, I've never noticed any looks of disgust, put downs yelled, etc, etc. Seriously, folks are just having fun and really so wrapped up in their own vacations - no one cares.

For instance, the only thing I heard people say about Goldie at the Four Seasons beach last summer was 'is she color blind - what a yucky color swimsuit she choose' not one word about her skin or being out of shape!

https://www.google.com/#q=goldie+hawn+at+beach+in+Maui
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Old 01-13-2017, 02:42 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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While I basically agree with the posters recommending ignoring what other people may think, one thing impossible to get away from is that obesity is less than pleasing to the eye, be it in a young person or an old person, in a male or in a female.

Now having said that, I can handle seeing the obese at pools, lakes, or the beach. It doesn't harm me, even if it is "less than pleasing to the eye". I don't think they should deprive themselves of participation in swimming.
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Talk about a point that doesn't need to be made. I mean, we all know that.

The point behind ignoring what other people think is not whether or not someone with an imperfect body (i.e., all of us??) should refrain from participating. It's that our purpose in life isn't to be "pleasing to the eye" of someone else. Looking good is a byproduct of living life, and the OP will never get a chance to do either if her insecurities keep her in her hotel room.

The point which you claim "doesn't need to be made" was a point I made because several posters in this thread seemed to be in denial of it.


Your point which you bolded (about our purpose in life) seems to me to be totally obvious. Nothing I wrote even remotely implied that anyone's purpose in life should be "to be pleasing to the eye of someone else". That would be a shallow and superficial purpose indeed, as it would ignore learning, development of skills and competencies, doing good for others, earning a living, and all sorts of other worthwhile and important things.


But one worthwhile goal in life is to be physically active for the sake of our bodily health; if we do this, in general we also tend to look better. But this would be one goal among several, or among many, not "the" purpose of life.


We seem to be talking past each other big time.
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Old 01-13-2017, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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Go to a nudist resort or beach. It will help you get over your body issues. IN reality, no one cares and you really just look like everyone else your age, and probably better. Why forego the enjoyment of swimming and being in the water?
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