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Old 01-31-2017, 07:39 AM
 
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I recently read a draft letter written by an attorney advocating on our behalf. In the letter, my wife and I were described as "elderly". I'll be honest, at age 61 years and 99 cents, I'm not ready for the hashtag yet. I suggested the attorney find a different adjective.

At this point in my life, I'm comfortable with a middle-aged bumper sticker on my car of life.
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Old 01-31-2017, 07:45 AM
 
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Middle age lasts until 70?? What an absurdity!

This thread has shown (as if any proof were needed) that defining "elderly" is relative and depends on one's vantage point and outlook.

Several posters have claimed that middle age lasts until age 70. I am 72 and I think that's a ridiculous claim and bespeaks denial. Let's face it, 70 is old, old, old. And it's not a question of how any given individual functions. I function quite well. I use extension ladders to do exterior painting and get up on roofs, I jog on the treadmill at least three times a week, and I almost always walk if my errand is one mile or less away. Driving at night is no problem and driving on the freeways is no problem. But I am most certainly a lot more than two years out of "middle age".

My hearing is so bad I have hearing aids. My vision is getting worse. My beard has been completely white for over a decade. It's also been a decade or more since I've been able to sleep eight hours without having to get up to go to the bathroom. Why delude myself and live in denial? I am old, very old. And it sucks and I hate it. I hate the beard (but I can solve that by being clean-shaven), I hate my hearing, I hate the more frequent need to use the bathroom. Why pretend that reality is something different than what it is?
Have to agree with you Escort Rider.
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Old 01-31-2017, 08:25 AM
 
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I just remembered something. The day before my husband retired, he was middle-aged. The day after he was elderly. I decided it was because he wanted a on-hand excuse to get around household chores, and, having succeeded, he would grab his bicycle, hit the rail trail, and become a youthful boy again.
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Old 01-31-2017, 09:00 AM
 
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Well ..... if the average life span is 80, that would make 40 middle aged. So if we allow for a middle age range, then that would have to be something like 35 - 45.

Now if we further categorized by age, then we could say that there are young adults (18 - 34), middle aged adults, older adults (45 - 65) , and the elderly (66 - 80).

Or something like that.
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Old 02-05-2017, 09:24 AM
 
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I remembered this thread when a friend posted on facebook about being asked to be part of a senior group. She was shocked since she is 57 and how could anyone think that she is a senior.

Well she looks way older than 57. She doesn't take care of herself at all. But then the person asking probably knows her age and went by that.
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Old 02-05-2017, 09:33 AM
 
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I just turned 62 - "elderly" will always be 20 years older than me until I'm 70, then it's anybody 10 years older. :-)
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Old 02-05-2017, 09:41 AM
 
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Obviously, 55 years old is not elderly.

That notion seems absurd to me.
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Old 02-05-2017, 10:39 AM
 
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My youngest grandparent to die was 77, and he didn't become a father until he was in his 40s. I feel a good warp on that, since the oldest grandparent hit 106, and drove until she was 101 (like someone else's did).

I see elderly at about 80 IF infirmities begin to happen. I do know people in their 70s who are becoming disabled, and need walkers, or a cane, but those are usually not helped by being out of shape, and blindly letting their doctors tell them what is wrong with them, and over medicating them.

Friends once retired in their seventies started taking advantage of weekly discounted ski days at a local ski area. They were so excited to get the discounts, and they started skiing again after years of too much working. Win win IMO

One of my best friends is 76, and she just lost the weight, and had a hip surgery to make her more able. She says it is a longer healing process, but she is getting better, albeit slowly. She always tries, and doesn't think she is too old yet. But... it is in her personality. She learned to swim in her forties, and learned to drive in her fifties. She is so cool.

I'm early fifties, and will take the discounts when they come. A friend works in retail, and they must offer the discount to anyone who looks over thirty. She told me to not be offended, and just take the discount, or you just make the person feel bad for asking. Fair enough.
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Old 02-06-2017, 06:59 AM
 
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I remembered this thread when a friend posted on facebook about being asked to be part of a senior group. She was shocked since she is 57 and how could anyone think that she is a senior.

Well she looks way older than 57. She doesn't take care of herself at all. But then the person asking probably knows her age and went by that.
I've been asked if I wanted a senior discount more than once and I'm 56. I pretty much look my age, but in all fairness it's hard for me to tell the difference between a 55 year old and a 65 year old. Unless they look a lot younger or older than most people in that age bracket.

Also, I find that it's usually young people who can't distinguish a 50 something from a 60 something. We all look old to them. I'll be glad when I turn 60 and don't have to feel insulted by the question anymore.
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Old 02-06-2017, 07:23 AM
 
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I've been asked if I wanted a senior discount more than once and I'm 56. I pretty much look my age, but in all fairness it's hard for me to tell the difference between a 55 year old and a 65 year old. Unless they look a lot younger or older than most people in that age bracket.

Also, I find that it's usually young people who can't distinguish a 50 something from a 60 something. We all look old to them. I'll be glad when I turn 60 and don't have to feel insulted by the question anymore.
Senior discounts start at 55.

I let my hair go grey and people never assume I'm not my age - lol. Fine with me. I laugh at my older sister that practically cries if people think she is even 60. She's almost 70!

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