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Old 02-16-2017, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in deep in Maine
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You have your health??? My fifteen year old doesn't, and would trade places with you any old day.


He could give you a lot of advice and ideas to keep busy.


Sadly, he keeps busy trying to live and not die. His life is full of doctors, hospitals, and medications.


He'd rather have health and have the option to do what he wants like you do.
Yes there are many many people who have less than I do and who are moving along. I didn't need to be told that, since I'm fully aware.

Its a kind of existential boring. Does anyone know what an existential crises is? I have no problems keeping busy. I'm very very busy.
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Old 02-16-2017, 05:14 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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Yes there are many many people who have less than I do and who are moving along. I didn't need to be told that, since I'm fully aware.

Its a kind of existential boring. Does anyone know what an existential crises is? I have no problems keeping busy. I'm very very busy.

An existential crisis is a moment at which an individual questions the very foundations of their life: whether this life has any meaning, purpose, or value. This issue of the meaning and purpose of existence is the topic of the philosophical school of existentialism.
Existential crisis - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existential_crisis
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Old 02-16-2017, 07:08 PM
 
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An existential crisis is a moment at which an individual questions the very foundations of their life: whether this life has any meaning, purpose, or value. This issue of the meaning and purpose of existence is the topic of the philosophical school of existentialism.
Existential crisis - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existential_crisis
sounds like a mid life crisis that laid dormant for about 25 years for the OP.


The OP should buy a motorcycle and a convertible .
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Old 02-16-2017, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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#40 post: Well, do tell because we are all in breathless suspense to know...inquiring minds and all...LOL
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Old 02-16-2017, 08:14 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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#40 post: Well, do tell because we are all in breathless suspense to know...inquiring minds and all...LOL
I agree. Please share your bored existential angst with us shallow folks who are happy with our gardens and our pets. We need to know what we should be missing.
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Old 02-16-2017, 08:30 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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To the OP (Slyfox2): I think you did a rather poor job in your original post - a very incomplete job - of explaining the issue you are raising. It was only in subsequent clarifications that I understood what you were getting at, so that now, my first response to you seems very lame to me.

It really is an existential issue (admittedly difficult to explain adequately) and existential issues are very difficult and complex to address. I would need more time if I were to try.

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Old 02-17-2017, 12:23 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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OP, you do seem to be above it all and sitting in your armchair batting away all observations and suggestions in a jaded way. It makes it hard to sympathize with you yet I sense a lot of inner pain you don't want to fully admit. I really don't know what to say to you because I don't know if you really want to be happy or even satisfied.
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Old 02-17-2017, 06:03 AM
 
Location: RVA
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I read this thread waiting for someone to explain simply what the OP was trying to express, yet I don't think anyone did. It is the VERY old question : Is THIS all there is to life?.

There are endless volumes discussing this, much pretty boring, IMHO. The question lurks in your mind, and I do believe the more educated you are, the more the question bothers you. Typically, until retirement, you are just too darn busy WITH life, to contemplate if there is a "why" to life. The whole self awareness conundrum. Sometimes, your mind is your own worst enemy. I think I understand what the OP is saying, but agree his first post was poorly worded.

Personally, when I ask my self "Is this all there is?" I simply answer myself "yup" to shut me up, and move along to the next project......
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Old 02-17-2017, 06:19 AM
 
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Those who are retired or about to retire have an opportunity to consider the meaning of their lives. Is it about reproducing, raising a family and going to work or is there something more? I found that I could barely wait to retire. I wanted to explore, travel, learn, create, do, experience, and accomplish new things in life.


I do truly feel sorry for those who have no goals and passions in life. I see a great many people who retire and are basically just waiting to die. Many seem to also have just drifted through their lives and retirement is just a continuation of the same.
I happily have no goals in retirement other than 'me'. It's my/our turn now and for the last 12 years, we've traveled, lazed and played when we want. It's truly been our golden years. I feel like I've been waiting all my life to get here and here I am, content with my unscheduled no-goal life.
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Old 02-17-2017, 06:39 AM
 
Location: 49th parallel
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Now I have seen your subsequent posts I realize that you have many talents to give but are prevented from doing this because of having moved out of the area where you could use them fully.

This is a bit off the wall - but my husband and I have never shied from moving to another area just to see if we would like it better there. We're retired now so we have no ties, and an understanding family. So what is wrong with going back to the state where you could set up a private counseling business and do it just as much or as little as you like?

Also, with your musical experience, I suspect you had lots of opportunities to practice it back there (and maybe not so many in the place where you are now). I have musical experience, too, and always check to make sure there is a community orchestra or some such in the places we think of moving. Of course, the musical thing can turn into a giant, and I had to cut back because I was out every night in the week with my musical activities.

Would it be a practical solution to move?
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