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Old 02-22-2017, 08:23 AM
 
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I think I am more open-minded than when younger. I thought I was very open-minded back in the day (then realized later on it was knee-jerk acceptance of new information/ideas). I think time and experience can only add to one's wisdom. I mean, can something be seen as wise if you haven't had the experience to see it over time?

Like another poster, I also feel quite capable of being not-wise on my vulnerable spots. But at least I have the experience to know what they are and not be blindsided by things happening.
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Old 02-22-2017, 08:36 AM
 
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No. I feel less intelligent than I used to. The experiences I've had (lots of good ones too!) were so out-of-left-field that no amount of intellect or experience could have prevented or improved them. Nor have I learned from them, for the same reason. Unless learning to mistrust everyone is a good thing.


And with the new technology I can't seem to master, I just feel more and more "left behind". Any "wisdom" I might have, is not relevant to today's world.
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Old 02-22-2017, 09:40 AM
 
Location: Somewhere in deep in Maine
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Define Wisdom, please.
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Old 02-22-2017, 09:44 AM
 
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Define Wisdom, please.
For me a big part is knowing when to keep your mouth shut. I do it a lot more than I used to.
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Old 02-22-2017, 09:50 AM
 
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I am wise enough to know I can still make mistakes and learn new things even at an advanced age. I am wise enough to know that 'I can and may know better now but I can also still be stupid enough to do it again'.


I am wise enough to know that those older than me may have (still) a lot of wise words to offer when I need them most - and I am more often than not likely to listen to them - which is something I did little of in my youth.


I am probably wise enough, most of the time, to realize that telling someone to do something is often less successful than just telling your own story and hoping someone may find something in it that they can relate to.
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Old 02-22-2017, 10:04 AM
 
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I would say I'm much wiser now at 62 than I was in my 20's. For instance certain personality traits in a man or friend that I would have overlooked in my 20's I would never put up with now. With age comes experience, which sometimes to leads to wisdom. We are more aware of consequences for poor behavior or decisions.


I wish I could return to my 20's with the experience and knowledge I have now. I would have made a lot of different choices.
Oh, absolutely! I'd actually want to time travel to an earlier age with the knowledge I have now to deal with certain situations, but 20 would definitely make my life turn out differently too.
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Old 02-22-2017, 10:16 AM
 
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For me a big part is knowing when to keep your mouth shut. I do it a lot more than I used to.
I don't have a problem with that anymore. Nobody cares what I think. I'm old so that must mean I've become stupid, and hard of hearing.
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Old 02-22-2017, 10:18 AM
 
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Define Wisdom, please.

"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (10), But fools despise wisdom and instruction.(7) " - Proverbs 9:10, 1:7 (NKJV)
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Old 02-22-2017, 10:18 AM
 
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Oh, absolutely! I'd actually want to time travel to an earlier age with the knowledge I have now to deal with certain situations, but 20 would definitely make my life turn out differently too.
40 years in mental health counseling showed me that people rarely change. I doubt that even going back to your 20's with what you know now would make much difference. People change in a crises, but rarely keep it. People lose 30 pounds and in 2 years gain it all back and even forget that they actually lost it.
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Old 02-22-2017, 10:21 AM
 
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40 years in mental health counseling showed me that people rarely change. I doubt that even going back to your 20's with what you know now would make much difference. People change in a crises, but rarely keep it. People lose 30 pounds and in 2 years gain it all back and even forget that they actually lost it.
Oh, I bet you were a GREAT counselor!
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