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Old 02-27-2017, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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Yeah. I have learned to keep my mouth shut and not share my ''wisdom''. Nobody wants to hear it, especially the young. They already know it all! LOL
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Old 02-27-2017, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Yeah. I have learned to keep my mouth shut and not share my ''wisdom''. Nobody wants to hear it, especially the young. They already know it all! LOL
Now these are words of wisdom.
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Old 02-28-2017, 01:51 AM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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I had a wonderful experience of wisdom today when I used an 'old' advice of helping a baby with gas by putting her on my knees & patting her on the back rather than over the shoulder & tat beautiful baby burped three times. She then smiled & 'talked' when I turned her over.

I'd almost forgotten that advice someone had given me when I was a young mother.

That was wisdom, in my opinion.
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Old 03-02-2017, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Location: Happy Place
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Save your teeth.

Have a tooth pulled, get an implant.

You will regret it if you require bone grafts on your jawbone due to receding bone.

Ouch.
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Old 03-02-2017, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Delaware
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I would say I'm much wiser now at 62 than I was in my 20's. For instance certain personality traits in a man or friend that I would have overlooked in my 20's I would never put up with now. With age comes experience, which sometimes to leads to wisdom. We are more aware of consequences for poor behavior or decisions.


I wish I could return to my 20's with the experience and knowledge I have now. I would have made a lot of different choices.


What's that quote by Oscar Wilde, "Youth is wasted on the young". So true. I wish I could also return to my 20's with some of the knowledge I have now regarding interpersonal relationships. I had a good money sense but not the greatest wisdom regarding personal choices. It's almost as if I had blinders on. lol With that said, we are a product of our experiences. If I didn't go through some of my difficult times, I wouldn't have the understanding or compassion for others who are also experiencing the same thing. I think that I am not so quick to judge now than I was in my youth. When young we think certain things will never happen to us....and then they do! Life isn't as predictable as we might have thought.
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Old 03-02-2017, 08:45 AM
 
Location: Delaware
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I found that when I quit comparing myself to others and trying to impress them, the more I gained their respect.


All my life I have not cared what people thought of me. I am not sure why. Perhaps I felt secure in the love of my family so that other people's opinions did not matter to me. Regardless, it hasn't seemed to hold me back...rather the contrary.
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Old 03-02-2017, 09:11 AM
 
Location: Delaware
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40 years in mental health counseling showed me that people rarely change. I doubt that even going back to your 20's with what you know now would make much difference. People change in a crises, but rarely keep it. People lose 30 pounds and in 2 years gain it all back and even forget that they actually lost it.

When I went through a major life crisis, I sought counseling for a year. What I really needed was someone...could have been a friend.... to talk to. I'm not totally convinced that counseling helps one bit. There were some things that she advised me on that, in retrospect, I think were wrong. I've known a string of counselors who don't have their own lives together. The "marriage" counselor who I saw, turns out went through a divorce herself after a time. That's only one example.

It seems to me that advice from counselors causes more divisions in families and more estrangements between people than is healthy. JMHO
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Old 03-02-2017, 12:49 PM
 
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40 years in mental health counseling showed me that people rarely change. I doubt that even going back to your 20's with what you know now would make much difference. People change in a crises, but rarely keep it. People lose 30 pounds and in 2 years gain it all back and even forget that they actually lost it.

When I went through a major life crisis, I sought counseling for a year. What I really needed was someone...could have been a friend.... to talk to. I'm not totally convinced that counseling helps one bit. There were some things that she advised me on that, in retrospect, I think were wrong. I've known a string of counselors who don't have their own lives together. The "marriage" counselor who I saw, turns out went through a divorce herself after a time. That's only one example.

It seems to me that advice from counselors causes more divisions in families and more estrangements between people than is healthy. JMHO
Just as any other profession, there are a few great ones, a whole bunch of good ones, and a few complete duds. I encountered several duds 20 years ago. They were AWFUL!

My state didn't have many restrictions on who could call themselves therapists or counselors until a decade ago, and it was tough to find a competent one. Now they tightened the licensing and you can find good ones. It's usually best to start with a psychiatrist or psychologist and then take their advice as to which treatment to follow. They can refer you to competent specialists in each type of therapy.
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Old 03-03-2017, 10:03 AM
 
Location: Delaware
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Just as any other profession, there are a few great ones, a whole bunch of good ones, and a few complete duds. I encountered several duds 20 years ago. They were AWFUL!

My state didn't have many restrictions on who could call themselves therapists or counselors until a decade ago, and it was tough to find a competent one. Now they tightened the licensing and you can find good ones. It's usually best to start with a psychiatrist or psychologist and then take their advice as to which treatment to follow. They can refer you to competent specialists in each type of therapy.

Through my crisis, 20 years ago, I learned that emotional pain can hurt the body just as much as physical pain. (lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks and cried every day for a year). In retrospect, I also learned that in order to fully heal from it there are no shortcuts: you must feel every ounce of pain, think every thought over and over until you can not think it one more time, or talk about it one more time, and you need to cry until the tears no longer flow. If you try and mask it with medication or block out the thoughts, you only prolong the healing time. JMO
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Old 03-03-2017, 03:07 PM
 
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In my youth I was ultra conservative, socially and fiscally. Now that Iím old I donít care if you are a Muslim, Christian or Atheist. Nor to I give a rats behind if you get an abortion of if you are gay or transgender.

I made many mistakes during my 76 years, but looking back, I had so much fun, that I would surely repeat them.

Iím still a fiscal conservative, and learned never take advice from people that have less than I have.

In person, no one has ask for my advice and thus I keep my mouth shut.
i think that I would enjoy meeting you!!I have met more people who drift towards conservatism as they age but fewer who reversed that movement.

Best wishes to you.
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