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Old 03-01-2017, 09:35 AM
 
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Talked to a long-lost cousin yesterday who is in her 50s and always did office support stuff. Her older husband retired from his work life with state water commission or something. They both have lifetime health insurance from the state until Medicare age. She has been retired for three years now and can't get over how much she loves it.

She says it's a blessing to get up every day and decide what you want to do, if anything. She and husband enjoy long car trips around the U.S. They have no kids and left family issues behind in NJ and moved to Florida. At first, they built their forever house- very big, all the bells and whistles, acreage. Forever house! After 11 years, they were tired of the size and maintenance, yard,etc., and bought a 1700sq.ft. house in a 55+ community on a lake, complete with alligators.

She advises not to say "forever" for any circumstances! Also advises that one not feel compelled to leap into a new plan of life but to spend maybe a year just doing whatever, or very little. While I agree with that, I note that she is well married (has company) and eased into retirement by working from home. I don't think she has any issue with depression or isolation. I think if I just jump into Colorado for retirement and don't have at least some self-imposed requirements for activity, I might get depressed and also won't meet people.

She can hardly speak she is so happy in not working. Says it's like "real life", maybe that is life as it ought to be. She was very encouraging!
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Old 03-01-2017, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Sylmar, a part of Los Angeles
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Who doesn't, you don't have to work.
Get up at 5:30 struggle with a difficult boss, maybe the job your on isn't going well, come home dead tired.
Now you have time for hobbies, go to all the during the week church events you want, social fun with friends.
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Old 03-01-2017, 08:19 PM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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Having a LOT of money helps too. Been poor all my life, but I'd rather be poor retired than poor working for ''da man''! LOL
Freedom is priceless...
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Old 03-01-2017, 08:50 PM
 
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The freedom of retirement is too good to explain.


One of my favorite things about retirement is not having to drive in bad weather. Ice, snow, driving rain, too cold, no scraping windshields...I can just sit inside and watch.
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Old 03-01-2017, 08:55 PM
 
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I do whine about it, but overall it's not bad at all!

I would love to be able to just drive around with a companion. But then be careful what you ask for.
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Old 03-01-2017, 09:17 PM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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I love, love love it. Whenever I'm feeling disgruntled about anything all I have to do is think: Remember when? All those meeting that you had to pull together and lead - remember all the corporate bullshat - remember when you had to give status reports to all the Directors and above, many with those gawd awful prune faces???? - remember when you couldn't get to sleep and the more you thought about how bad you were going to feel the next day doing all of the above the worse it got and now it doesn't matter when you get to sleep???? Well~~~compared to all of that you don't have much to complain about.

Then I stretch and smile. Freedom~~freedom~~freedom
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Old 03-01-2017, 09:22 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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I had more money and less time when I worked. Now that I'm retired I have less money but more time.

Guess which of those I like better?
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Old 03-01-2017, 09:23 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Wife and I retired at 58, we have come to the conclusion that work is so overrated....both having a pension and healthcare makes that a reality. Sold the big house in the country to a small home in a university town and loving it.
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Old 03-02-2017, 03:58 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Most of us on this board like retirement. A few people have written that they didn't like not having anything to do and went back to work and are happy with that. Those people get demonized, unfortunately. ("What's the matter with you that you don't have hobbies and interests outside of work?"). I just take the attitude that we are all different; I feel no need to chastize that minority.

It doesn't have to be a dichotomy anyway. We don't need to have hated working in order to love being retired. A long time ago, someone, it may have been Biscuitmom, wrote that she was happy working and she is also happy retired. I've never forgotten that; it's a sign of a life well lived and of good choices made.

I've always respected the gumption it takes to make a large leap such as the OP, Brightdoglover, will be making. Those "self-imposed requirements for activity" sound like a good idea. Best wishes!
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Old 03-02-2017, 06:34 AM
 
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Most of us on this board like retirement. A few people have written that they didn't like not having anything to do and went back to work and are happy with that. Those people get demonized, unfortunately. ("What's the matter with you that you don't have hobbies and interests outside of work?"). I just take the attitude that we are all different; I feel no need to chastize that minority.

It doesn't have to be a dichotomy anyway. We don't need to have hated working in order to love being retired. A long time ago, someone, it may have been Biscuitmom, wrote that she was happy working and she is also happy retired. I've never forgotten that; it's a sign of a life well lived and of good choices made.

I've always respected the gumption it takes to make a large leap such as the OP, Brightdoglover, will be making. Those "self-imposed requirements for activity" sound like a good idea. Best wishes!
I cannot remember ever hating my military years. Sure, maybe a few instances while under bad conditions, but overall, loved everything about it.
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