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Old 03-08-2017, 10:10 AM
 
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There was a many page thread here awhile ago I forgot the title but it was would you remarry or something and I read it all.
I was greatly disappointed that almost all women retirement age aren't interested in getting married. They have their own money, are comfortable living alone, don't want to cook or cleanup for a man, don't want to take care of a sick old man, I don't blame them for that, don't care about love or romance anymore, like their independence.
I care about love and romance! Can't cook for nuthin' but will happily pick up the check to dine out. I don't know about marriage- never did it, was never therefore disappointed- but I believe in committed connection. And if that person became sick, I hope I'd be most willing to care for him. Of course, he might well be younger than me...
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Old 03-08-2017, 10:18 AM
 
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There was a many page thread here awhile ago I forgot the title but it was would you remarry or something and I read it all.
I was greatly disappointed that almost all women retirement age aren't interested in getting married. They have their own money, are comfortable living alone, don't want to cook or cleanup for a man, don't want to take care of a sick old man, I don't blame them for that, don't care about love or romance anymore, like their independence.
I am not interested in getting married. Maybe if I didn't have Mr. Wrong II, there would be a motivation to find a sucker to marry me. (Yes, they would be a sucker because they would get a very bad deal, as you would know if you ever tried my cooking).

I am probably lucky to have Mr. Wrong II, because that prevents me from searching. I do NOT want to be one of those old women who is always dreaming and fantasizing about romance!

I get enough romance from Mr. Wrong II. Unfortunately, he is not healthy and I am afraid I could wind up a "widow." But even if that happens, I hope I won't mind being single.

As someone here said, marrying for love has been the exception not the rule through most of history. Women needed a husband who would help them provide for their children. The woman's family had to make sure she did not marry a romantic loser.

And even now, even all of you who married for love -- would you have married that wonderful guy if you knew he would always be poor?
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Old 03-08-2017, 10:21 AM
 
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And then there is the question -- how much sex do we older women need? I have found that I can completely forget there is such a thing as sex. Mr. Wrong II, on the other hand, is just as driven as ever.

If I get reminded about sex, it is the same as when I was young. But if I don't get reminded I forget it exists.

If I lived with Mr. Wrong, this would be a constant source of stress.
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Old 03-08-2017, 10:23 AM
 
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Oh, and one other thing -- being married makes you seem more respectable. It means there is at least one person on earth who wants to be with you.

If you are single, everyone wonders if maybe you are gay, or maybe you are mentally ill, or maybe you are impossible to get along with.

So screw 'em, I have to not care what they think.
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Old 03-08-2017, 11:28 AM
 
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If you are single, everyone wonders if maybe you are gay, or maybe you are mentally ill, or maybe you are impossible to get along with.
Heh. As much as I fancy myself an individualist or free thinker or whatever, I admit that I feel odd that I am not divorced. If someone asked, "Have you ever been married?" I say, "No, but if I'd been more conventional, I'd have been divorced twice by the time I was 25." (That's true).

Frankly, if I believed in marriage for myself, I should have married my high school boyfriend. He sure would have liked to.
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Old 03-08-2017, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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Oh, and one other thing -- being married makes you seem more respectable. It means there is at least one person on earth who wants to be with you.

If you are single, everyone wonders if maybe you are gay, or maybe you are mentally ill, or maybe you are impossible to get along with.

So screw 'em, I have to not care what they think.

Really?? Everyone wonders??

Where do you get your information?
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Old 03-08-2017, 01:10 PM
 
Location: NYC
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My first cousin asked me if I was gay last time she visited, I guess the suspense was getting to her. (Answer: no)

I give her credit for being upfront & honest.
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Old 03-08-2017, 01:32 PM
 
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Oh, and one other thing -- being married makes you seem more respectable. It means there is at least one person on earth who wants to be with you.
No. It is just taken or inferred to mean that. Ha ha. I've known all kinds of married people who definitely did not want to be with each other but their head problems and poor life-management got them in trouble
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Old 03-08-2017, 01:33 PM
 
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Really?? Everyone wonders??

Where do you get your information?
C'mon. Context. "Everybody" used idiomatically in that sense does not mean 7.5 billion people on the planet earth. It means it's frustratingly common and recurring
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Old 03-08-2017, 03:04 PM
 
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C'mon. Context. "Everybody" used idiomatically in that sense does not mean 7.5 billion people on the planet earth. It means it's frustratingly common and recurring
Right. I can almost hear them wondering, the thoughts are so loud.
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