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Old 03-26-2017, 02:33 PM
 
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[quote=FeelinLow;47640768]FWB? Milk with no buying of the cow as they say. You men and your ''needs'' baffle me. Can't imagine that. There's a reason nature gave us hands and long enough arms. Scratch your own itch. That's all I have to say about that! LOL
As for unconditional love? I will always have dogs willing to give and receive real love 24/7 once my Honey goes.
Not judgin', just sayin


Having someone scratch your itch, is a lot better then scratching it yourself. Lots of women have FWB also, it's mutually beneficial. Women have needs just like men.
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Old 03-26-2017, 03:35 PM
 
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I bet if we took a poll among senior women you'd be in the minority here.
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Old 03-26-2017, 04:45 PM
 
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Wanting a friend with benefits is quite different from actually being able to find a friend with benefits - in the case of women having a FWB.

And there is the question of standards i.e. qualifications of men that would be acceptable to be a friend with benefits to a woman.

And due to societal expectations and realities and population numbers of men and women, men can also take up with women who are up to 20 years or more younger than they are.

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Old 03-26-2017, 05:07 PM
 
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My wife died 11/15 and I have lived alone since and I intend to keep it that way. I keep busy. I play golf 2-3 times a week. I usually leave the house everyday to run errands. I talk to 2-3 people per night (family and friends). Non-golf days I typically go out for a late breakfast (about noon) thus I am not hungry until that evening. I do cook for myself but I keep it very simple (steak, baked potato like simple) and I also do take out several nights per week as in Chinese last night. I found a local restaurant that sells a wide variety of frozen casseroles (single and family size) so I keep few of those in the freezer at all times.

I have an arrangement with a young, single mother (FWB) that takes care of my sexual desires. We see each other about 3-4 times per month. She often spends a night a month at my place.

I most certainly miss my wife. I dream and think about her quite often. That said, I would never remarry and I do not even want a full time lady friend. The only thing I could see myself doing different would be having a lady friend but we would each have our own life and homes. Maybe spend a night or so week at each others place and share trips together but not in each others face all the time. I am not looking for such but if it comes my way, fine. If it does not come my way, fine.
Oh my. I have a terrible feeling this young, single mother is hoping for "more", that she doesn't see her time with you as an "arrangement" for just sex, or just FWB. That kind of relationship usually benefits the man.

It's highly unusual for women, especially a young mother, to seek out "just for sex" friendships with a much older man. Let's be honest here and no offense--but, if she wanted "just sex" she'd pick some young stallion. So, let's hope you are being honest with her about your true intentions.
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Old 03-26-2017, 05:19 PM
 
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[quote=FeelinLow;47641862]I bet if we took a poll among senior women you'd be in the minority here.[/QUOT

So old fashioned to think that women don't have sexual desires and needs just like men do.
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Old 03-26-2017, 05:23 PM
 
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Wanting a friend with benefits is quite different from actually being able to find a friend with benefits - in the case of women having a FWB.

And there is the question of standards i.e. qualifications of men that would be acceptable to be a friend with benefits to a woman.

And due to societal expectations and realities and population numbers of men and women, men can also take up with women who are up to 20 years younger.
If I was looking for a FWB the qualifications would be disease free, well groomed and respectful. Oh and of course enjoy sex.
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Old 03-26-2017, 05:25 PM
 
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Oh my. I have a terrible feeling this young, single mother is hoping for "more", that she doesn't see her time with you as an "arrangement" for just sex, or just FWB. That kind of relationship usually benefits the man.

It's highly unusual for women, especially a young mother, to seek out "just for sex" friendships with a much older man. Let's be honest here and no offense--but, if she wanted "just sex" she'd pick some young stallion. So, let's hope you are being honest with her about your true intentions.
My thoughts also. Two adults in a mutually-understood "arrangement" is their business. One of them thinking it is more permanent or far-reaching a relationship while the other does not is asking for trouble. Especially with children involved.

Then again, the young woman may view it is as discreet prostitution to survive and have no problem accepting its limitations. As I said, as long as both parties see eye to eye on it...
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Old 03-26-2017, 05:32 PM
 
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If you are aware of how useless some of this information is why post it all? Then ask my why I'm not trying to validate links like "How Stuff Works" as a scientific study? That's a rhetorical question by the way.
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Old 03-26-2017, 05:41 PM
 
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My thoughts also. Two adults in a mutually-understood "arrangement" is their business. One of them thinking it is more permanent or far-reaching a relationship while the other does not is asking for trouble. Especially with children involved.

Then again, the young woman may view it is as discreet prostitution to survive and have no problem accepting its limitations. As I said, as long as both parties see eye to eye on it...
Agree totally. The "young, single mother" part of this is what got my attention. I think it's possible that she could, as you say, be viewing it as a "discreet prostitution to survive" but if the only real exchange here is sex, I think for sure this older man is getting the better end of the deal. I don't think that helps her survive emotionally or financially. And, I'm betting a lot of women in this young woman's position are hoping to find long-term security in a committed relationship. Sex is usually not high on their list of priorities

And, surely, if both parties agree that's swell. But, I'm betting this "arrangement" is not being spelled out.
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Old 03-26-2017, 06:44 PM
 
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I bet if we took a poll among senior women you'd be in the minority here.[/QUOT

So old fashioned to think that women don't have sexual desires and needs just like men do.
I read this great article a few years ago in which a 67-year-old widow said she recently remarried. Her adult kids were happy for her because now she had "companionship" and someone "to have dinner and travel with". She said she didn't have the heart to tell her children that she was most excited about having regular sex again.
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