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Old 03-10-2017, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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My wife went off to California for a week to attend a wedding "shower".

So I'm left alone with the dogs. Dogs, like me, are simple creatures, we get along just fine.

But it sure is quiet around here.



When you are left alone do you enjoy the solitude or do you really miss your spouse?
Yes and yes.
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Old 03-10-2017, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I desperately crave some solitude. Last summer we spent a ridiculous amount of money for a hotel for John to go to Osh Kosh for a week for the air show because I just wanted to be alone. Yes I missed him, but the me time was just as seductive. I love those free days, but I had the crazy teenagers with me for a three night sleep over, so I wasn't totally alone. I don't like being alone in the house at night and sleeping alone. No smelly dogs in my bed! I think if John went back to work during the day, and I spent those few hours alone, it would be perfect. That's not going to happen. He's also a home body and rarely leaves the house. Would I want to live without him? No Way! I would like a little more me time, but I won't ask him to leave our home to have it, unless it's something he can enjoy like the air show. Talk about high maintenance. That week cost us a small fortune.
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Old 03-10-2017, 08:47 AM
 
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Crazy as it may sound to some people, I love living alone. I'm not lonely at all. If I want company, I have friends and relatives. If I want to go out and do something I do. I love having the house to myself with my dog.
I don't get in anyone's way nor am I told what to do and when to do it. For me, it's perfect.
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Old 03-10-2017, 08:53 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Yes my husband misses me when I'm not there. He waits up until I come back from my night class to talk to me before he goes to bed. But I often jokes about it to my teacher that he is grateful to her for taking me away from him for 6 hours. He gets a break from me. Which sometime he does, because he can put on the music that I'm not too fond of.
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Old 03-10-2017, 08:56 AM
 
Location: Central Mexico and Central Florida
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I enjoy being alone for a few days, but then I miss my dining partner. Normally we eat out most evenings, and there's nothing sadder than asking for a table for one. We do different things during the day often, and enjoy catching up with each other over a nice meal and some wine.
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Old 03-10-2017, 09:05 AM
 
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Crazy as it may sound to some people, I love living alone. I'm not lonely at all. If I want company, I have friends and relatives. If I want to go out and do something I do. I love having the house to myself with my dog.
I don't get in anyone's way nor am I told what to do and when to do it. For me, it's perfect.
same for me.
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Old 03-10-2017, 09:20 AM
 
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I think one reason golf was invented for the reason it gives both genders time away from each other. I am kind of kidding but it sure serves the purpose.

I really enjoy my six hours (including lunch) alone to do what I want, whether that is having a lazy, relaxing day at home or something more active. Also, I enjoy my golfing days with my friends as a nice day out.

Even though DH is my best friend (for almost 50 years!), a little space is a healthy thing to us.
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Old 03-10-2017, 09:20 AM
 
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Sadly, I had to let my beloved dog pass over the rainbow bridge at the end of February. It is very quiet here now.
That is sad. But if you have a dog-shaped place in your life/heart, there will be another dog or dogs. Adopt a lonely senior or two. Your beloved dog will not mind if another dog finds a loving home with you.

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Old 03-10-2017, 09:22 AM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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Crazy as it may sound to some people, I love living alone. I'm not lonely at all. If I want company, I have friends and relatives. If I want to go out and do something I do. I love having the house to myself with my dog.
I don't get in anyone's way nor am I told what to do and when to do it. For me, it's perfect.
Count me in as well. Can always visit a friend for a few hours or talk to them on the phone, but love living alone.
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Old 03-10-2017, 10:14 AM
 
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I have lived alone since I was 23. I would like to know what it's like to miss someone's presence!

Came home from some surgery last month and the dogs were boarded for a week and I really missed them being here.
Yep. Dogs are a huge comfort for me. Except mine are now and don't hear as well. But they can still bark!

I have to monitor myself a bit. My mother was a recluse. I don't want to go down that road. I'm sure I could easily.
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