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My wife went off to California for a week to attend a wedding "shower".
So I'm left alone with the dogs. Dogs, like me, are simple creatures, we get along just fine.
But it sure is quiet around here.
I miss conversation and doing things with her. I find it tedious to cook just for myself. It also makes me think of what I would do if she dies first. I don't think I would like living alone. But I also don't think I would re-marry.
When you are left alone do you enjoy the solitude or do you really miss your spouse?
My DH has travelled for work weekly since our early thirties and even before that, but not routinely.. He still travels 2-5 days a week and plans to retire in three years. I've enjoyed my time alone and like to say we've been married for 42 years but probably together for only 30 of those.
Since I've retired, I have even more time alone but enjoy not trying to keep the house up while working and trying to mesh our schedules, which rarely happened. I have to be mindful that while I've been eating at home all week, he's been eating out all week. We live separate lives at times, but love being together when we are, probably because of that.
I do love my time alone, but if given a choice I would choose to be together. We are best friends as well as spouses and while I like my independence, I like to share my thoughts with him rather than the cats or dog. He claims his hotel rooms are so quiet without the pets and he misses the noise. I'll like to try that and see for myself.
Retired after a long career that involved extensive travel. Two week into retirement my wife announced "I married you for life not for lunch". I now have a part time job.
I was married for 36 years, and have been widowed for 15 years. My husband and I were good friends, knew each other as children, and I don't think I'll ever stop missing his presence in my life. Although I've had a significant other for some years, we don't live together, and , for us, this is a good choice. I'm alone much of the time, and have gotten used to this.
I have options for companionship when I want it, and I do want it sometimes; but, I don't want company for the sake of company. The S.O. is my best friend now, I care for him a great deal, and am grateful he is in my life .But, I will never have the quality of relationship I had with my husband, and it is, I feel, healthy to realize and try to accept that. Sometimes, at least for me, it is better to accept being alone, than trying to make substitutes fill a role that is impossible to fill.
Catsy
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