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I moved across the country for work. I have never felt like I was vanishing but this place was never a home. More like doing time. But I am doing something about it and going back down south at the end of the year.
I do feel that way, in the sense that *who* I was, my identity, is gone. I have to recreate myself here in this new life, find a new identity, and figuring out how to do that.
I moved across the country for work. I have never felt like I was vanishing but this place was never a home. More like doing time. But I am doing something about it and going back down south at the end of the year.
It might depend on how tightly you are connected to that home base and family. I lived 150 miles from my home and family for 35 years so I got used to being out of the loop (I have a tiny family). Now, I moved another 1000 miles four years ago and I don't see much of a change. It is relatively easy to stay connected via the internet or skype or other means. I actually have a new life that I enjoy but have ties back to the old life as well. I have old friends coming to visit this week who are passing through town. I take a trip back home almost every year.
One thing I have going for me is that I live in a town on a main east-west interstate route so I'm a convenient rest stop when people are making cross country trips. I never planned it that way but I get to see old friends or family more now than when I lived 150 miles from home.
Some people just have a hard time moving away. They don't want change. They get "homesick". When I was a young person I went away to college, several thousand miles away, and in effect started a new life. My wife and I have done that numerous times. Each time is a new adventure with new opportunities and new experiences.
If you do not have an adventurous spirit and new adventures and new opportunities are not appealing maybe you should move back to your "roots". Don't be surprised it that turns out different than you expect also. Most of us find we cannot live in the past even if we might want to.
Most of us find we cannot live in the past even if we might want to.
This is so true. Today is what matters.
After I retired I was going thru stuff and items that were from my life in the town where we lived up to 15 years ago-before we moved to our present and final location. I actually felt weird looking at that stuff. I don't quite know how to put it, but I felt this is not me-this is a past life that held mixed memories. I ended up getting rid of all that stuff. It felt very freeing.
The Sierra Nevada land is home and always will be. Our life is built here and where we used to live isn't and actually never was.
We are living in Central Mexico and lived here for 5 years earlier in our retirement. Neither of us are Latin American, nor is our Spanish as good as we'd like. We love our adopted country.
With Skype phone video (free!), email, free unlimited calls to US from our landline in MX (for only 20 bucks a month for the total landline service!)...easy to keep in touch.
Our new home here is much larger, has a great swimming pool and a separate casita for guests so we expect lots of family/friends to visit.
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