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I think I know now why I dislike burials, saving ashes or visiting loved ones in a cemetery.(human & pet)
Each person should do what brings them comfort, but for me I like remembering their life.
Photos, good memories, stories, favorite places ect.
The remains reminds me of their death or their dead decayed body.
Having ashes around or visiting a gravesite is sad & depressing but remembering the life they lived
is inspiring for me .
I have told my kids I prefer to have my ashes spread at the beach and then there is no
depressing gravesite or ash churn for them. Remember my life, not my death.
I don't want my great grandkids looking at dirty ashes and being told "that is great grandma"
No way.
You don't actually SEE the "dirty" ashes, you know. At least it's cleaner than the dirt most are buried in!
I have had many of my pets cremated. You pay extra for a separate cremation, without other pets. I have had three dogs buried in a pet cemetery, then three more cremated. I now have ten boxes of cats' ashes and three more of dogs. I also have six cats still living all 13+ years. I hoped to have us all cremated and ashes spread together, but that does put a burden on those who are entrusted to do it, so I am planning on gathering all of the ashes I now have and mingling them in one container and, since I may possibly be moving to another state, it's a matter of where to spread or bury them and leaving instructions to dispose of my own in the same place. I have moved several times, so there is really no place special to all of us and my pets are my family, so I just need to find somewhere suitable. My other pets from years ago are buried where they were born and lived out their lives but I've lived with as many as twenty cats and three dogs at the same time and most of the cats began as feral. So, if I live long enough to move again, I'll immediately look for a place there for all of us. I do believe in a hereafter and I'm positive the love between pet owners and their pets can never die, so I fully expect to see them all again. :>)
Why would you not just let a pet go at the vet's? I realize I'm odd in that I don't much care what happens to the body after the spirit departs it (of course, you HAVE to dispose of human remains according to the law)... But I'm genuinely curious... I had one cat cremated... $100... And it didn't really give me any comfort. But, again, maybe that's just me... You can be reunited in the after life without your physical remains remaining together. What if a pet is lost forever?
Went through this just recently when my son had to make the difficult decision to have his Lab euthanized (I know that word according to Webster's applies to an "individual" vs an animal). Regardless, we were able to find a vet that came to the house and performed the procedure. Having been through one of these for a friend's cat in a vet's office this time it was so much better emotionally and private. Claymore died in his own bed in the arms of his best fried of fourteen years. This was a true battle hardened, tough young man I can not ever remember seeing cry since a toddler but I did that day. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking about how my son hugged that dog as we walked down the gravel road with "his" dog for the last time. Him carrying his best friend Claymore like a child as we made our way to Claymore's final resting place dug by his best friend on our own property in a private spot we are able to visit as we wish.
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